State of Plentitude: Multi-plate(ing) in 1 environment/activity

[Von]

Hi everyone,

Title says it all...

How do you plate multiple girls coming from 1 single source... example: Dancing

I've been in full monk style... focusing on my business etc.. and during my monk style period... I decided to build my focus and build the ''living in the present moment''

Due to my training. I've never felt better in my skin and I am all muscle (just need to get thiner at the waist casuemy parents say I could ''get thiner'' and got your fat twice comments) lol

At the same time of ''focusing and redo my schedule'', I started dating regularly this girl from my dance class.... however, she's extremely conservative and religious (who knows when I will get the V) but everything is going well... It makes me happy and wanna progress.

Now, in the past 3 weeks... most girls I see in the street smile at me, react to me... in line when waiting for ''cafeteria food''... 2 girls I talked too for the first time in my life started touching my biceps, kino my shoulder withing 2 minutes.... At restaurants: 2 different waitress came serving food and commented it was with love while touching me and introducing their name (never happened to me before)... etc... I feel something in me is giving a good vibe.In the car, girls smile when i look and react to me while the pass in front.

Now, my main social place is the dance school... I am dating 1 girl and its going well... however, there is 2 girls that also interest me there.... this week: both asked me out...

Hence, the title: How would you plate all 3? Knowing they come from the same ''social spot''? Or you would tell me... date 1 girl there, find 2 others in different location?

 

[wifehunter]

Ewww...too much touching!

What if they have, cooties?

 

[fastlife]

Doable? Sure--and it can be done with minimal drama. Should you do it? No. You don't have the frame yet--and you've already fvcked up expectations with the first girl.

With the first girl, you've already triggered her 'provider' algorithm. You think she'd keep a guy she liked who she knew had other, immediate sexual options on the hook for three weeks? No. You're not the guy who 'Oh, that's just who he is.' The other girls like you because of preselection--the moment first girl loses interest or starts beta shaming you (and she will--since she knows you're not the guy who can pull this stunt off yet), the whole thing falls apart.

In a situation like this, you'd have to communicate to the first girl: Look, I'm seeing other girls. We can't be together. If you tell anyone about this it's done.--ideally with plenty of covert demonstrations leading up to the talk (you look like a player, guys/girls talk about your antics, etc.) And express/demonstrate to the other girls the same thing. And you have to frame it in such a way that that's OK & they won't feel slutty.

It took a solid 2 or so years of experimenting with situations like this to be able to pull it off. And I nuked a ton of eggs to make that omelette--and luckily all my mutual friends & coworkers love me anyway lol. The only way you might can make it work is to drop the first girl, tell her it's not working out--go on a date with the other two girls & see if you can sell them on a nonexclusive frame. Let those two fight it out and it might light the competitive fire under girl number 1. BUT you have to be 100% prepared to lose the dance class because you'll probably lose frame at some point and the social pressure from 3 girls can be immense.

But what are you doing with girl #1? Are you looking for a relationship or are you looking to be a playa? What's the end game with her? Is she really a good girl or is she just making you wait? When will you be willing to cut your losses? If you had abundance would you have cut them already? What other avenues are you cultivating? Can you pull off Cold Approach? Really that's the quickest avenue to build your frame.

 

[Von]

Doable? Sure--and it can be done with minimal drama. Should you do it? No. You don't have the frame yet--and you've already fvcked up expectations with the first girl.

With the first girl, you've already triggered her 'provider' algorithm. You think she'd keep a guy she liked who she knew had other, immediate sexual options on the hook for three weeks? No. You're not the guy who 'Oh, that's just who he is.' The other girls like you because of preselection--the moment first girl loses interest or starts beta shaming you (and she will--since she knows you're not the guy who can pull this stunt off yet), the whole thing falls apart.

In a situation like this, you'd have to communicate to the first girl: Look, I'm seeing other girls. We can't be together. If you tell anyone about this it's done.--ideally with plenty of covert demonstrations leading up to the talk (you look like a player, guys/girls talk about your antics, etc.) And express/demonstrate to the other girls the same thing. And you have to frame it in such a way that that's OK & they won't feel slutty.

It took a solid 2 or so years of experimenting with situations like this to be able to pull it off. And I nuked a ton of eggs to make that omelette--and luckily all my mutual friends & coworkers love me anyway lol. The only way you might can make it work is to drop the first girl, tell her it's not working out--go on a date with the other two girls & see if you can sell them on a nonexclusive frame. Let those two fight it out and it might light the competitive fire under girl number 1. BUT you have to be 100% prepared to lose the dance class because you'll probably lose frame at some point and the social pressure from 3 girls can be immense.

But what are you doing with girl #1? Are you looking for a relationship or are you looking to be a playa? What's the end game with her? Is she really a good girl or is she just making you wait? When will you be willing to cut your losses? If you had abundance would you have cut them already? What other avenues are you cultivating? Can you pull off Cold Approach? Really that's the quickest avenue to build your frame.

Thanks that's the type of reply I was looking for.

My areas is basically every where I walk (ny movement are always work related), the restaurants I eat, my work office, my gym, my building (where I live... I leave at 6am, come back around 11pm), my dance school

Like Raider, don't blow your spot... I am gonna go with this

Girl 2 is still at the dance school, I will make her a orbiter
Girl 3 is leaving the school, so I have further opening

Girl 1, I am taking a day one by one but she's exactly like you said.... I believe she want to lock me in.... but I like it.... with her its easy and she understand my humour

My trill for the hunt is big.... so Dance school with only be Girl 1 until ''exclusivity'', the rest we will see

 

[fastlife]

Thanks that's the type of reply I was looking for.

My areas is basically every where I walk (ny movement are always work related), the restaurants I eat, my work office, my gym, my building (where I live... I leave at 6am, come back around 11pm), my dance school

Girl 2 is still at the dance school, I will make her a orbiter
Girl 3 is leaving the school, so I have further opening

Girl 1, I am taking a day one by one but she's exactly like you said.... I believe she want to lock me in.... but I like it.... with her its easy and she understand my humour

Sounds solid.

My areas is basically every where I walk (ny movement are always work related), the restaurants I eat, my work office, my gym, my building (where I live... I leave at 6am, come back around 11pm), my dance school

My trill for the hunt is big....

But this is an issue. Why are you limiting yourself so much? You have at least one night a week you can go out and get rejected a little bit. Cold approach gives you an (almost) unlimited number of fvck ups--to experiment with what works and what doesn't and to find out who you are as a person without constraints and considerations for group think. Right now like you're like a fisherman who only fishes in the pond in his backyard.

You have at least one night a week. Life's too short not to make that time as an investment in yourself.

 

[Von]

Sounds solid.



But this is an issue. Why are you limiting yourself so much? You have at least one night a week you can go out and get rejected a little bit. Cold approach gives you an (almost) unlimited number of fvck ups--to experiment with what works and what doesn't and to find out who you are as a person without constraints and considerations for group think. Right now like you're like a fisherman who only fishes in the pond in his backyard.

You have at least one night a week. Life's too short not to make that time as an investment in yourself.

I agree, in my life I limit myself too much.... in all aspect....

So far all I said above was done... currently got a main girl and its good.

I've gotta be more consistent and focus: Career and Health must remain... but sometimes I slip for 1 week or 2 ... every 3 months in my ''schedule of life''.

A lack of desire, fear of success?

I've a 2 year were really business should be my focus, so my pound is really my life in a way... all done to save time