"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Starting to see dating from a chick's perspective...

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I've been doing online dating for a while now and it's been really great for practicing going on dates. I'll go on multiple dates on weeks when I'm feeling it and I constantly have numbers to call. It's like a business I'm running, always following up on leads. Well I've noticed now I'm not so excited about going on dates anymore. I won't go out with just any attractive women any more. I kinda screen them like chicks do. I noticed this today when I wasn't feeling 100% well so without worrying about it I call up the chick I was gonna meet today and cancel. I wasn't planning on meeting her, but then I realized upon talking to her that she kinda took it as a DJ would. A couple things stood out:

- she was slightly disappointed, which was good because it showed she had some interest.
- it didn't bother her too much and she didn't try to convince me to make it anyways. She just said we'll try again and passed the buck to me to call her again.

I liked how she handled it. She was relatively indifferent, but not so indifferent that she didn't seem interested. I think this is how a DJ should handle women.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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how are you so successful with online dating? are you in a large market (like NYC)? I average maybe a 20-25% response rate and maybe like 10% actually lead to something (phone number, meet or both).
 

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Originally posted by wysiwyg6000
how are you so successful with online dating? are you in a large market (like NYC)? I average maybe a 20-25% response rate and maybe like 10% actually lead to something (phone number, meet or both).
I'm in southern Cali...it's just a numbers game. 10% phone numbers sounds about right...just send out more e-mails.
 

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running out of decent looking women to contact in my area. If I really wanted to, I could go for NYC girls, but that's a little bit of a pain in the ass for me to get to.
 

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Originally posted by wysiwyg6000
running out of decent looking women to contact in my area. If I really wanted to, I could go for NYC girls, but that's a little bit of a pain in the ass for me to get to.
where you located? i meet 90% of my women off craigslist and they all look 6+.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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