"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Starting to see dating from a chick's perspective...

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I've been doing online dating for a while now and it's been really great for practicing going on dates. I'll go on multiple dates on weeks when I'm feeling it and I constantly have numbers to call. It's like a business I'm running, always following up on leads. Well I've noticed now I'm not so excited about going on dates anymore. I won't go out with just any attractive women any more. I kinda screen them like chicks do. I noticed this today when I wasn't feeling 100% well so without worrying about it I call up the chick I was gonna meet today and cancel. I wasn't planning on meeting her, but then I realized upon talking to her that she kinda took it as a DJ would. A couple things stood out:

- she was slightly disappointed, which was good because it showed she had some interest.
- it didn't bother her too much and she didn't try to convince me to make it anyways. She just said we'll try again and passed the buck to me to call her again.

I liked how she handled it. She was relatively indifferent, but not so indifferent that she didn't seem interested. I think this is how a DJ should handle women.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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how are you so successful with online dating? are you in a large market (like NYC)? I average maybe a 20-25% response rate and maybe like 10% actually lead to something (phone number, meet or both).
 

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Originally posted by wysiwyg6000
how are you so successful with online dating? are you in a large market (like NYC)? I average maybe a 20-25% response rate and maybe like 10% actually lead to something (phone number, meet or both).
I'm in southern Cali...it's just a numbers game. 10% phone numbers sounds about right...just send out more e-mails.
 

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running out of decent looking women to contact in my area. If I really wanted to, I could go for NYC girls, but that's a little bit of a pain in the ass for me to get to.
 

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Originally posted by wysiwyg6000
running out of decent looking women to contact in my area. If I really wanted to, I could go for NYC girls, but that's a little bit of a pain in the ass for me to get to.
where you located? i meet 90% of my women off craigslist and they all look 6+.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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