Starting to confuse me

[Dummy]

Well that girl that I'm dating who I talked about with the issues of her ex with their kid asked me a couple days ago what i want from her. At first i told her I didn't want to spill the beans then she says i want you to spill your guts(lol) then I just told her I want her. After I told her she didn't respond to it but instead changed the subject. Then starts saying she is stressed out and woke up feeling like crap. The next day I texted her asking if she felt any better and she said she still feels like crap from being stressed out and fell asleep on the couch after waking up in the morning and just woke up right after I sent her the text. I didn't reply back to her because obviously she isn't feeling good.
Haven't heard from her in two days after that because I figured I told her too much by telling her I want her. I mean she asked so I just told her what I want. Does it seem I let on more than i should have by telling her that or should I have just kept kinda quiet about it and just left it at the not spilling the beans?

 

[Mex]

I am not an expert as others on this forum, but let me tell you how I answer that question and it usually doesnt back-fire. I just say I want to take it slow and see where things go. Now she can interpret that how she wants. First, it says that you are not trying to force anythnig, and you are interested in her (not just her looks). Also, you dont appear desperate since it doesnt sound like you care too much. Finally, when you make a move and she tells you you wanted to take things slow, you just say that ..."it felt right and thats where things must be going". So now she feels like you like her for more than just looks and feels desired. But It also happens sometimes that she will make a move too since she will be in a position to want to grab your attention since you "don't care". But of course, your actions have to be consistent with your words.

 

[Dummy]

So I probably screwed up telling her I want her physically and mentally.

 

[horaholic]

You should always answer questions like that in a way where she could interpret it either way. Tell her you enjoy her company, as opposed to your real feelings. And tell her you arent particularly looking for a relationship, but are open to the possibility with the right girl. This way, you dont scare her off, if she is only seeking a fling (which can change quickly). If you havent fvcked this up, start downplaying it now.

 

[Splendidostring]

Hey man,

You should never reveal your true emotions to a woman, you just told her you'd do anything for her and now she knows she's got you. Bad bad bad.

If I were you, I'd start letting her desire you ... talk to her still BUT focus on other stuff and only give her a BIT of your time/energy.

Good luck,

 

[vitor]

Just leave her alone and let her contact you next. Act as if this never happened. I do not think you really did anything wrong saying you wanted her. That should be implied by you being on a date with her. Was that all you said or did you go more in depth? Odds are she a bit crazy or jilted anyways.

 

[Dummy]

That's all I told her Vitor. Just simple and to the point really. I'm not a game player. She asked I told her. She's 28 years old. The way I see it is if she can't handle it then it's her problem.

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

Wow your signature is highly insightful, OP.

You fvcked up because you failed her test. She prodded you and you spilled your guts, as you put it. It's not that she "can't handle it". It's that she doesn't want to, now that you SAID it. Don't SAY it with women, ever. Keep your mouth shut next time.