"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Starting to become so simple

Chromeo

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Guys this is really all you gotta do

1. talk to girls you would like to talk to

2. ask for her number and get together

3. have fun with the damn girl! (none of this how do I? waah waah, if you dont know how to relax and have fun you need to be hazed or something) and if you want to bang her then act like it!
(you cant tell me you dont know what turns you on, reverse it and do it to her)

4. DO NOT GET THE ONEITIS! (you dont have to spin plates to do this but you need to have time for yourself, keep her on the backburner, do not let her be your priority, do not hang around her all day or text her constantly, when you start to get bored while hanging out or on a date, LEAVE! dont look for a way to continue the date and make it more entertaining, it looks like your trying to please, cuz you are! This is why spinning plates does help) you can let yourself have a mild case of oneitis once she asks you to be her boyfriend, and then you decide if thats a good idea. But do not put her on a pedestal, if she screws up, next it!

DO NOT CHASE THEM! what happens when you run after a cat? the thing bolts! But if you scratch it behind the ear once and leave it alone, the thing keeps comin back until its purring in your lap!

you really should follow this rule with all people. people hate being pestered. If someone wants to talk to you they will, go do your thing. DO YOU!

But to do this properly you must above all have respect for yourself, you are a catch and you have to believe that, focus on being the best you can be, create goals, not just with women but for your life and set out to accomplish them, they dont have to be grandiose, could be something as simple as getting in shape ect. Do not make woman your priority, you can make them a goal but not a priority.

read this, pretty damn enlightening, backbreaker is A MAN http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=172987
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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if anyone disagrees please say so, cuz this is pretty much how im operating right now haha
 

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Good summery and i totally agree about women being like cats!! I will add that some cats like you to give them alot of affection and attention and some just want to be left alone.You dont want to get stuck with one that wants nothing to do with you if your the type of person that perfers affectionate ones either so choose wisely:cool:
 

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I don't disagree with the thrust of what you're saying, but I do disagree with these types of posts that come up every once in a while that purport that dating/attraction is 'so simple'. Clearly it's not or else this forum wouldn't have hundreds of thousands of posts.

It's definitely best not to over-complicate things, but the dating/mating ritual in the 21st century can be pretty convoluted, and having a blanket strategy is not going to work in every situation.

Nonetheless, the basis of your advice is sound, if a bit oversimplified.
 
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