My situation right now is good... ive been dating a girl for almost 2 years now and things are good. My problem though is that it seems like ive lost all of my good friends. Before me and my girlfriend met i enjoyed going out to bars, going to sporting events, socializing and just seeing my friends. As of late i have been extremely moody and almost dread going out to bars or clubs or any social event . The only thing i do anymore is workout a ton, work and see my girlfriend. My friends have all pretty much moved away, gotten married or still want to go out drinking everynight of the week until 3 am. I am looking for some advice, motivation or general words of wisdom because i have never been this way or acted this way.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
starting to become antisocial... need some advice
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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How contradictory, you say things are good yet you also say it's not that good. I think you need to figure yourself out and involve yourself with others.
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Did your girlfriend pressure you to only spend time with her or was she just so fun to be around that you forgot about your friends and interacting with other people in the process?
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are you on steroids? u say u train alot...that or your overtraining
Welcome to a rut.
What you have to be careful of is getting too comfortable. A lot of guys get to this stage and then are thrown out of whack if their GF leaves them. Right now if your life is your work, working out and you GF then you need to think what happens if one or 2 of those things are taken away.
You might need to balance your life out a bit, or risk becoming stale and boring. If you go out socially with your GF that’s a different story though.
This happens to almost all the men out there at one stage or another
What you have to be careful of is getting too comfortable. A lot of guys get to this stage and then are thrown out of whack if their GF leaves them. Right now if your life is your work, working out and you GF then you need to think what happens if one or 2 of those things are taken away.
You might need to balance your life out a bit, or risk becoming stale and boring. If you go out socially with your GF that’s a different story though.
This happens to almost all the men out there at one stage or another
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
No she really didnt pressure me into spending all my time with her. What did happen is when i did spend time with my friends i would get non stop text messages from her. Also we started to spend alot of time with her group of friends.... going to their parties... going out on friday and saturday nights with them. Next thing i know shes not hanging out with her friends much and before i even knew it was already weird hanging out with mine because i had been out of the loop.KontrollerX said:Did your girlfriend pressure you to only spend time with her or was she just so fun to be around that you forgot about your friends and interacting with other people in the process?
The text messages weren't pressure? She didn't want you out so she made it as unenjoyable as possible.
Friends can feel dumped too, you're just going to have to try harder to make it up to them. Don't let your girlfriend monopolise your time, it's not fair and if she gives you grief then maybe this relationship isn't right for you - however it will probably make your relationship healthier.
Friends can feel dumped too, you're just going to have to try harder to make it up to them. Don't let your girlfriend monopolise your time, it's not fair and if she gives you grief then maybe this relationship isn't right for you - however it will probably make your relationship healthier.
this usually happens...you get a gf, dont see the need in going to bars/clubs with your boys to meet women..and you just start doing everything with the gf and dont chill with the boys again
my advice..dont do EVERYTHING with the gf. Have some backbone, and say "im going out with the boys tonight" and she can chill with her friends. This will do two things. Keep your friends plus show that you arnt a ***** and ur gf will want you more.
my advice..dont do EVERYTHING with the gf. Have some backbone, and say "im going out with the boys tonight" and she can chill with her friends. This will do two things. Keep your friends plus show that you arnt a ***** and ur gf will want you more.