Starting fresh again, I need help!

[Mintyfresh]

I'll try to make this as brief as possible.

About 5 or 6 years ago i discovered the PUA community. I had never gone on a date, only kissed 2 girls ever, had no friends or social life. Long story short i made massive improvements to my social life and everything in general. My freshman year of college (i started at 22) was great, I was the social king and everybody loved me. Plenty of girls wanted me, etc.

Fast Forward :

I had my first real girlfriend for nearly 2 years, and it was fine, but i became too comfortable and somehow became a total loser again and my social anxiety resurfaced. I suppose i stopped putting in effort to socialize, gained about 10 or 15 pounds and became really uncomfortable in my own skin. I'm afraid to go out in general and once again I'm scared of holding conversations with girls. I don't really have any friends, or a job, or anything really I'm kind of just waiting around for summer to end and college to start up.


So here's my plea - I NEED HELP, I'm not sure what to do. I have exactly one year left of college and want it to be the best year of my life.

Should i go through a bootcamp again? I'm really at a loss of what to do to get back to where I was.

 

[Chromeo]

get a job.

work out.

have fun.

 

[COD]

well its summer........so let this be your training.........U can start with online gaming, do some cold approaches durring the day, try a speed dating event........anything u can do to get comfortable again with women just do it.

Then by september your college gaming should be a cinch........LOSE the girlfriend thingy........have a few women......their small.

 

[kingsam]

a boot camp for you may be extremely beneficial as you will rediscover your long lost game (its in your head...somewhere)

is this a sosuave DIY bootcamp or a "program" bootcamp with instructors...etc...

- get in the gym ! refresh yourself !

 

[the305]

women do not make you happier. only you can make yourself happy - start socializing, making friends.. with guys.. girls.. everyone. focus onhaving a good time, not "getting the girl"

 

[Mintyfresh]

Get in the gym :

Well, I've been doing a fairly heavy pushup/pullup/situp routine 3x a week and some cardio (longboarding). As a starter, its the start of the third week and its nice that ive stuck to it. I have a naturally muscular build, just around 20 pounds of unwanted fat over it at the moment, kinda sucks. I'm like 5'9 and 188 pounds or so, not extremely fat, but I'm unhappy.

My real problem is that I eat too much normally, and I have a rather large supply of weed that tempts me more often than not. I either have to learn to not give in to the munchies, or not smoke at all. It's tough staying happy when you don't have a job ... just too easy to smoke and relax i guess.

Get a job:

I've made a somewhat half-assed attempt at getting a summer job. It just seems really pointless / annoying to go through all the stress of a new job I'd have to quit when college starts back up, but on the other hand i do have an 800 dollar credit card bill i need to pay ... I'm working on it. It's tough.

Anyway I did the bootcamp 'hello' exercise again. The first few were brutal, but by the end (as expected) I'm once again comfortable saying hello to anybody.

I even went up to a lady outside of rite aid and told her i was writing an article on social phobia and asked her a few questions, she told me she used to actually be afraid of socializing and stuff, but grew out of it or some bs.

Advice would be appreciated, I need to get my life somewhat on track.