"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I'm sick and tired of smoking. I'm tired of feeling I need it. I've known people who've used it and it worked for them.

I can't wait for the day it becomes normal for me not to smoke. I bet I'll feel a lot better, I'll have more energy.

It's crazy because I'll go through a period of time where I'll start running again and it's usually always three miles regardless of how long it takes me. But I'll still smoke. Some times, one day a week, I'd run 3 miles in the morning and three in the evening.

One of the stupidest decisions I've ever made in my life is to start smoking. It's crazy that I'm only 27 and I've been smoking ten years. At first it wasn't much and I've had periods of time I couldn't, but not by choice.

I can say for a good solid 6 years I've been smoking any where from a pack to a pack and a half.

Any one here quit before? How much better did you feel? How to you cope weeks or months after you quit but had a lot of stress.

I can't wait to be done with smoking.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Any one here quit before? How much better did you feel? How to you cope weeks or months after you quit but had a lot of stress.
I quit smoking 10 years ago. The first day was the worst but it got better as the day went on. I ended up eating a ton of breathmints the first few weeks after I quit. Someone put it this way, "If you replace smoking with the habit of eating candy, don't worry about that. It's easier to break the habit of eating candy." I eventually broke my breathmint habit.

I quit smoking by reading Allen Carr's Easy Way to Stop Smoking. Everybody who knows me is surprised it worked:

http://www.amazon.com/Allen-Carrs-E...eywords=allen+carr's+easy+way+to+stop+smoking

It works on building your confidence in yourself to quit instead of the usual scare tactics everyone else uses. When the book told me to have my last cigarette, I hated every minute of it and swore I would never smoke again.
 

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People still smoke why? Go to a vape shop buy a vaporizer and your fav flavor of nicotine juice. Its freaking delicious and harmless to lungs.
 

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I've never smoked but what I have to say may be similar. I was addicted to Mountain Dew at one time so bad that, at my worst, I bet I chugged 18 a day. Gradually I realized that I wasn't so much addicted to the substance, but I was addicted to the act. In other words I was addicted to having the can in my hand all day. I realize that when I didn't have a can my hand I felt something was missing. So I gradually wormed my way off of it by keeping the can in my hand but not always having Mountain Dew in it. Today I drink about three diet Mountain Dew's per day, no more regular. Otherwise I drink water, ice tea, V8, and sometimes another diet soda with much less or no caffiene. My point regarding smoking is maybe the action of having a cig in your mouth is more of an addiction then the substance?
 

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I've never smoked but what I have to say may be similar. I was addicted to Mountain Dew at one time so bad that, at my worst, I bet I chugged 18 a day. Gradually I realized that I wasn't so much addicted to the substance, but I was addicted to the act. In other words I was addicted to having the can in my hand all day. I realize that when I didn't have a can my hand I felt something was missing. So I gradually wormed my way off of it by keeping the can in my hand but not always having Mountain Dew in it. Today I drink about three diet Mountain Dew's per day, no more regular. Otherwise I drink water, ice tea, V8, and sometimes another diet soda with much less or no caffiene. My point regarding smoking is maybe the action of having a cig in your mouth is more of an addiction then the substance?
cigarettes are one of the hardest addictions to quit, even compared to Crack and heroin.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You can do it man. I don't smoke, but I had been drinking since the age of 15. I quit cold turkey 2 years ago as part of a New Year's Resolution and haven't had a drink since.
 

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Watch your moods as the Chantix takes hold (it titrates up into your blood and then brain chemistry over a number of days).

A friend of mine tried it and has some very uncharacteristic anger bouts when he tried it. He discontinued the Chantix and ended up quitting smoking anyway.

Now to find a way to get me over my addiction to Padron 1964 Anniversary Exclusivos!
 

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My physiology professor said it took her about a year to feel like normal and get rid of the brain fogginess she had when she was trying to quit smoking.
 

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My physiology professor said it took her about a year to feel like normal and get rid of the brain fogginess she had when she was trying to quit smoking.
What was her age? How long did she smoke? How much did she smoke?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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