Starting a Bootcamp

[HereToImprove]

Last week, I ended a relationship of three and a half years that I achieved largely through advice from this site. It was a good relationship, but we were just growing in different directions. After that long, its time to decide if this person is the one, and she just wasn't. I still consider her my best friend.

Prior to coming here, I had never really tried a pickup, at least not in any sort of decent fashion. I practiced some and built a few skills which led me to, at one point, having several different hot prospects, one of which became my girlfriend of those three and a half years. During this long time, my skills have atrophied and I have found myself worse off than I was before.

The problem still lies in the pickup for me. I have problems putting my excellent dating skills (at least a 80% - 90% 2nd date success rate over my life - and numerous stalker types who I was "too good" with and wouldn't disappear because I was the love of their life after one date) into action due to an intense fear of rejection during the pickup. This fear is isolated to picking up women only, as I used to be in sales and my current job requires that I speak in front of executive-level people much older than me every day. . One of my co-workers asked me how I can have the nerve to tell the CEO of a $500M company that they are more or less full of it (and come off well doing it), but I can't talk to a nobody college girl at a party. I wish I had an answer. I am also quite outgoing with guys and am a semipro poker player (deriving about 25% of my income from it) so I have a healthy tolerance for risk in other areas.

Since I have one clear shortfall in the game, its time to address the problem at its source. I need to embark on a bootcamp. I have been living with this problem for 24 years and its time to kill it in one fell swoop. My goal for bootcamp is to improve myself, and if it leads to a woman (odds are it will if I perform it correctly) then great. I just can't deal with the weakness, this fatal flaw, any longer.

I will be beginning in the next couple days, most likely Thursday. First field report will be due in the day after I begin. Wish me luck not with finding someone, but in improving myself.

Here is what I have to work with, BTW... http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=EYERGYE&key=BBF

 

[Machivelli]

I think its great that you will be looking for ways to improve yourself, the most basic advice advice that I can give you is simple. Find a method, direct or indirect, or whatever else is out there these days and try it out. Find out what works for you and what doesnt. Get rid of all the **** that doesnt and improve the stuff that does. Impose your own personality and style on it and make it yours. You want to be an artist at the end of day or on this Forum a DJ

Fear of rejection stems from a belief that you dont feel adequate. So you should come up with a real good inner program to deal with that. There is a post on this site from a guy called Woodhaven, Transition to Natural Game, if you cant find it go to www.fastseduction.com be careful abou the stuff you read and make up your own mind. Also see Dimitri post on Pick Up, excellent ****.

I read alot of the stuff on this site and alot of guys here dont have a clue. Field work will be the best teacher you have, reading something then actually doing it are two different things. thats why I like direct method. You bring your personality and beliefs to the party and confront any issues headon.

I look forward to reading about your future successes and conquests

 

[padrote]

Good luck man, check out this thread
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=76890

I'm sure you can trump all of us, I'm pulling a whopping 6.7 on hotornot...

 

[HereToImprove]

First field report, gentlemen!

Started out on the BC on Thursday. Got in about 10 "Hellos", about 7 or 8 returned the gesture. Felt more open to the world and energetic. After the first couple, it became easier.

Friday: A virtuoso day in my development. One of those days when the basket just looked bigger for me. I was a little down in the morning, just was grumpy in general and busy at work. Only got in 3 Hellos and felt like I was slackin.

Turning point came that evening. A group of my co-workers and I went out to a trendy bar here in the city, and some friends were brought along. I opened on a hot streak, slipping into a group of 10 people, only two of which I knew, and leading the conversation for about a half hour. Dropped some impressions of a character that a cute HB8 was talking about, scored some major laughs and interest signals from her. Tried to game her friend a little with some fluff talk, then bailed when I saw a ring. Rats, and she was a tall one too! O well. HB8 bailed not too long afterward, scored her # on the way out though.

As she was leaving, another girl enters the picture, a solid 7, a very cutesy "porcelain doll" type. She was just sitting on the fringes of the big conversation, so I introduced the group to her and made her feel welcome. Myself, her, and two other girls, one of whom I work with and the other who is a super UG, head inside where I sing karaoke for the bar. Everyone sings along with me, and I build a lot of energy with the group. I sit next to the HB7 and she starts asking me a lot of questions, clearly trying to pick me up! I start testing for interest and seem to be scoring strong. We move on down to another bar, more of a dance club, and I began to work kino. She started to reciprocate a lot of it and finally it became obvious that I was in (then the friend told me as well, but I already knew at this point). I drove home the other two girls, then the HB7, got a #, then swooped in for an easy kiss close, which eventually ended up in her bedroom for the night Nice to hit a home run on the first at bat after your call up back to the big leagues! She is a cool girl and I will be calling her again, though I also will be pressing on with BC and continuing to keep my options open.

Saturday: Had a decent day, went to a bar with some work friends and their GFs/wives that night and didn't really do any sarging. I really felt in control of the sitation after the previous night, and felt that I could pull someone if I wanted, but nobody met the criteria I sought. Got in about 7 or 8 Hellos.

Sunday: Kind of a lost day today. Played a lot of poker today, slept in, did a little shopping and got in 4 to add to the tally. BC has envigorated me a lot and I can't wait for week 2. I feel ready to move on but want to stay true to the system.

 

[penkitten]

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