started college, and I'm doing so well it's weirding me out

[MascaraSnake]

Since I'm so organized and focused on my studies right now (which has boosted my confidence), I don't have time to really compliment and obsess over the women there. When I don't have my nose in my studies (or a random book) I treat them like regular people and add a bit of C and F in there. When I put them all up on pedestals and didn't focus on school, I always failed datewise (and nearly flunked out of school to boot).

As a result of this, I'm now doing about 20 times better with women than I did in high school, and it's just the first week. I tease a bit, and they always respond positively. Not that I don't enjoy the success, but I'm so used to doing badly that this is weirding me out.

I guess every potential DJ was an AFC at some point, but man...I could have actually enjoyed high school if I'd just done it a bit differently. Anyone else had a revelation like this?

 

[ElStud]

Haha, yeah. See the thing is, is that when you're less focused on girls and thus less desperate for them, they're more likely to be attracted. But when you actually want girls and are more desperate for sex, they're less likely going to be attracted. But yeah, you should keep doing what you're doing, you know, treating women like regular people with a little seduction put in there. This way you're automatically being real and genuine with them and they're seeing the real you. Also, since you're focused on your studies and stuff, they'll see you as less desperate.

 

[daygameguy]

Since I'm so organized and focused on my studies right now (which has boosted my confidence), I don't have time to really compliment and obsess over the women there. When I don't have my nose in my studies (or a random book) I treat them like regular people and add a bit of C and F in there. When I put them all up on pedestals and didn't focus on school, I always failed datewise (and nearly flunked out of school to boot).

As a result of this, I'm now doing about 20 times better with women than I did in high school, and it's just the first week. I tease a bit, and they always respond positively. Not that I don't enjoy the success, but I'm so used to doing badly that this is weirding me out.

I guess every potential DJ was an AFC at some point, but man...I could have actually enjoyed high school if I'd just done it a bit differently. Anyone else had a revelation like this?

EDIT: One small question: when you first meet girls, do you keep a lot of information about yourself a secret? Not that I spill everything immediately, but obviously being a complete mystery man isn't really necessary either.

Success will find those who are too cool to look for it.

 

[Aragon034]

Success will find those who are too cool to look for it.

HA! i like that

Sounds like you're having a great time Mascara Snake, and yeah, once you start getting good success it does weird you out for the first bit. Especially when you either tease or neghit them.

It's so damned attractive to them though, never in my AFC days would i have thought that if a girl says "I look like crap" and i reply with "I agree, here's a paperbag for you to hide in." that it would actually get a good response!

Focus on your studies, work on what's important to you, and the rest will fall in place.

 

[MascaraSnake]

one small question to add...

I'm usually extremely polite and pleasant by default. When I start a conversation with a total stranger, I treat the smelly hobo the same way I treat the 10 out of 10 in my sociology class...much use of 'excuse me', 'sir', 'ma'am', etc.

I sort of do this when I have a first conversation with a cute girl. I really don't crank up the C and F that much, I just treat them like they're a potential guy friend I'm talking to. However, I never, EVER give direct compliments...they're almost always backhanded in some way. If I get to know them a bit better, I'll crank up the smartass to 11 a la Spinal Tap. Anything wrong with this? This is obviously not your typical AFC nice guy behavior, but I'm not sure if anyone on here would find it a bit too slow moving for their game.