"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Star Trek Alpha Behavior

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My dad was watching an episode of Star Trek TOS and I noticed this particular scene from the episode Space Seed.... Those unfamiliar with Star Trek may want to watch the clip from the beginning, but the link I've included, I think, shows Khan acting in a very alpha, masculine way with the woman:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=okFCpE2Li9s&t=2m44s

For me, seeing behavior means a lot more to me than reading about it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Space Seed was my favorite Star Trek episode when I was a kid, me and my dad would always stay up to watch the old episodes on Nick at Night.

Khan was a badass, that's for sure. There is another scene where the young female yeoman comes into Khan's quarters and he says, "You rearranged your hair for me." Even as a kid, I thought that was amazing and it has always stuck with me.
 

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Different Trek characters are Alpha, but for different reasons IMO:

Kirk - typical ladies man, had charisma. He was Alpha since had the looks and the presence/character to attract.

Picard - wise, the seat of reason, and could reason out almost any situation. He was Alpha since decision-making and being seen as a sound/astute mind lends to good leadership skills. An Alpha is a leader above all else.

Sisko - No nonsense, took no ****, bold and brazen. goes for itself, since being Alpha is about showing confidence and being in control (and showing others who is boss).
 

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An Alpha is a leader above all else....

Exactly ilikecharlene!

Being "Alpha" all boils down to being a leader. Now you have different types of leaders, all with different characteristics, which you effectively pointed out in your post.

I'd just like to add that so many guys focus on copying or mimicking the mannerisms of a dominate male (A.K.A. Alpha Male). While there is nothing wrong with this, I think men would be far more effective if they let their own individual qualities emerge, rather than simply copying the behavior of another. In other words, just be yourself (I know some may cringe after reading that last sentence, but that's what game ultimately comes down to). If you can confidently and assertively express yourself without apology, you'll be "alpha," and there are different ways to be alpha, as ilikecharlene wrote.
 
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