Standing out too much?

[omgwtfm8]

I feel like I give off the "I'm too good for you" look when i walk into a party where I don't know anyone just by the way i dress, look like, and act.

Last night, me and my buddy rolled up to an apartment party. 2 kegs, Beer Pong, Music, I'd say about 15 girls 20 guys. And girls would look, they get the wrong first impression just by looking at me.

How could i eliminate the "Oh this guys just trying to get some, He think he's some hot sh!t" mentality and just give off that charming special guy sense?

It's hard to explain. Anybody know what i'm talking about?

Money isn't a thing to me, i have a nice car, nice clothes, and sh!t. I never brag or talk about them... What should i do, dress and act like everyone else? I'm trying to be different, stand out etc.

 

[BluEyes]

I dress like I just walked off the beach, not really impressive but i do stand out. Board shorts, tight tshirt, trucker hat, aviator sunglasses, sandals

Just wear wats comfortable for you. It sounds like the chicks sensed your unease wearing that ****, and backed off.

Originally posted by omgwtfm8
I feel like I give off the "I'm too good for you" look when i walk into a party where I don't know anyone just by the way i dress, look like, and act.

I used to do that too. One part is the way you dress, the other part is the way people percieve you. Sometimes the "i'm too good for these people" look is a mask for insecurity and isn't a "fun" look. You might appear distant and unsocial. THe girls would take a look and think "**** this guy, he's no fun" and move on.

To get over this:
1. Smile more
2. Take your hands out of your pockets
3. Open body language - dont cross your arms
4. Try to socialize/build rapport with every group in the party, THEN choose where to settle down - this basically allow people to get comfortable with you, and if they're at all interested, they'll know where to find you.
5. Laugh
6. Focus on having a good time and meeting new people, and have an 'internal smile' where you FEEL like you're having fun.

If you do these, and make an effort to look decent(not overdone, but not sloppy/dirty) then the chicks will be taking turns trying to hit on you.

 

[jigga23]

hey i get the same looks all the time and i get girls that come up and say it to me. i got a nice car nice sh!t thats probably why i act like that. but its good cause girls see that as a challenge and if they get you they think wow i cant believe i got this c0cky guy.