"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Standing out from every other guys at work who's after an HB

BannedGod

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I work in an enclosed call center of about 200 workers (not all at the same time obviously), and one of the new agents is a really hot HB, at least 9, and most guys are after her, although it's pretty funny how they pretty much compete for her attention.

How can I stand out from the crowd without looking like I'm competing with others for her attention? I already initiated a bit of kino and she is responsive, I invited her to join me and my work "clique" at a shisha bar (don't know if it was a good move), I assumed if I can get her outside of work and in an environment I'm more familiar (around the my work social circle where I'm pretty the closest of the guys to being the alpha male) it should work to my advantage... I guess my questions are:

How should I act with her at work?

and how should I act with her at the shisha bar?



working on a chick from work is new for me, need some help! :D
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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JCballin88

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Wait for everyone else to crash and burn after attempting to get involved with a co-worker...?
 

WC2

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At least in my workplace when a new hot chick comes aboard, all the guys tend to pu$$yfoot their way around her, in hopes that she'll snag.

It's really not a good technique, because women see right through this. And they think it's pathetic.

If you want to be the wild card, you need to be direct and not evasive. Some of the most successful relationships I've had with women is when I've gone straight up to a woman I hardly know/have only known for a short time and directly ask them to lunch, or something along those lines.

Don't make it a date. It's just lunch. The essence of the date should set it in when she starts realizing that you're not afraid to say what you feel and you're certainly not afraid to make things fun and make her laugh (even at herself).

It's no different than the chick in the bar who gets all the attention from guys who don't know how to make the move. Then suddenly from way over head, one man comes in and swoops her just by saying something as simple as, "Hey, this place blows. Let's go do something else." Done.

Women respect direct men because they are trustworthy. Unlike men who float around and nibble at the idea of seeing a woman, women trust men who are direct, because their intentions are known without anything being said. It's the same reason women tend to gravitate toward men who have been with many women. They know the deal. They know what they're getting themselves into.

Oh and the whole work & sex thing doesn't apply to my post. It's your choice whether you want to get involved with a coworker.
 

f283000

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Are you afraid of being alone with her or something? If you can ask her to go along with friends why didn't you ask her to just go somewhere with you?

brother, you don't seduce women by asking her to hang out with your friends. You seduce women by isolating them, escalating, making a move. You are going to be competing there with every other guy for her attention. She is going to be getting high on attention from the other males making attraction a difficult thing to do.
 

jophil28

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f283000 said:
brother, you don't seduce women by asking her to hang out with your friends. You seduce women by isolating them, escalating, making a move.
^^ Isolate and then escalate. Seduction 101.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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