Standards too high?

[ManUnited01]

Anyone here found that after their success with women, their standards get so high that finding a girl who can meet these requirements is really quite difficult? I won't budge on my standards and therefore know I have to face the consequences that it may be quite a long time before I do meet someone that is up to them.

Just wondering if I should still be using my techniques on women even though I may not necessarily have an interest in them? Have just started a new job at a bar where there are plenty of women and can sense a high level of interest from a couple of them.

 

[rimman]

Definitely

Be natural with them
They may have friends

 

[MotownMack]

I always say that upholding ones standards is directly proportional to how long they're willing to be alone. Obviously, you need some standards, but you should be realistic IMO. And you can ask for-but do not expect to get- more than you bring to the table yourself.

I am regularly amazed at some of the approaches I get from women online especially (where everyone seems to be mercilessly trying to "date up"). This is going to sound stuck up-I'm not, I am really down to earth guy. But I am in pretty good shape, I dress pretty well and try to look stylish (in both RL and my online photos), etc, you get the picture. I am regularly approached by women who are 5-10 years older, are seriously overweight, have hairstyles from the 80s, wearing sweats and no make up in their photos.

Sorry, that's just not gonna happen, I've got my standards too. Put some effort into yourself and we'll talk.

Just wondering if I should still be using my techniques on women even though I may not necessarily have an interest in them?

Absolutely. I posted about this before, I flirt with everyone, from them 70 year old landlord lady that I rent an office from, to girls with b/fs, to people I have very low IL in. I was at a bar the other night with two of my buddies who are pretty laid back (AFCs, actually), and they had a friend show up. She was not bad looking and was dressed nicely, but she was really overweight and was a good 12 years younger (thus, she may not have had any interest in me because of this). I flirted and talked with her, and had a nice conversation just for the fun of it.

Always keep your skills sharp.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

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Just wondering if I should still be using my techniques on women even though I may not necessarily have an interest in them? Have just started a new job at a bar where there are plenty of women and can sense a high level of interest from a couple of them.

I don't see how stopping will help you in the long run. A lot of times guys do this after getting into a relationship and end up running it into the ground because of complacency. I say make these "techniques" into your lifestyle. It doesn't mean that you have to close every woman you encounter, consider them as just practice to keep yourself honed when you come across one that fits your standards.

 

[everywomanshero]

The I cannot get a girl because of my high standards is pretty much always a cop out for why a guy gets no ass at all. This way they can continue to live out a fantasy where they could've had all these women without ever having to risk the sting of rejection.

A more realistic outlook (IMO) would be to say I won't be exclusive with any woman who doesn't meet a super high set of standards. However, unless one really investigates and gets past the social mask, he won't even know if or when he's found such a woman. Basically, I'll tag a womans ass if she's hot, I think she'll be good in bed, and she pursues me, but there is no way I would give them any illusion of me being in their life long-term.

 

[KontrollerX]

Well maybe you could post your standards here so we can give you a more clear picture on whether they seem realistic or not in our opinions.

 

[ManUnited01]

The I cannot get a girl because of my high standards is pretty much always a cop out for why a guy gets no ass at all. This way they can continue to live out a fantasy where they could've had all these women without ever having to risk the sting of rejection.

A more realistic outlook (IMO) would be to say I won't be exclusive with any woman who doesn't meet a super high set of standards. However, unless one really investigates and gets past the social mask, he won't even know if or when he's found such a woman. Basically, I'll tag a womans ass if she's hot, I think she'll be good in bed, and she pursues me, but there is no way I would give them any illusion of me being in their life long-term.

Your outlook makes much more sense.