"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Stand your middle ground

Al Moh.

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It's always like this: The one extrem leads to hell. The other extreme however, well... leads to hell. It's taking everything in moderation that makes us happy.

People tend to switch from one extrem to the other. They think: Oh, I was a Nice Guy, now I have to become the ultimate player and kill everything a Nice Guy does. Whatever a Nice Guy does...

Someone told you not to let people walk all over you anymore. Does that mean you should now walk over people?

It's been said not to sit on your computer all day long. Does that mean you are going to through your computer out your window?

You read about not judging her by her words but by her actions. Does that mean not to care about what she tells you anymore?

No, no and no. I could write down 100 other examples if I just knew any.

But that is not the point. Realize that everything good poisons you if you get too much of it.

It's the same with good advice that I use to stumble upon on this site and others every day. Kick back and relax. Take some and then go LIVE.

Yes, I am serious. Too much success is bad. It makes you forget how it feels to loose and learn out of it, to pull through.

Too much love is bad. It looses it's value to you.

Too much sosuave is bad. But that has been told over and over again, don't be contained by formula.

Yes, this person giving advice might be really smart and experienced but do you want to soak it up all day long until you are so confused that you don't know how to act anymore? You have to turn this advice into first hand experience.

It is your right to mess up! It is your right to make mistakes! Don't let people tell you: I told you so, you should have known better. As long as you don't make the same mistakes over and over again you're fine.

It's the censorship of society and of our very own mind that we are trying to loosen up. Yet, this is not about replacing it by another censorship.

"This is AFC!" So what? If it is, I am going to fail. But maybe you are wrong. For noone can tell you what exactly to do because noone has been in the excact same circumstances.

To sum it up: I am going to take a break from SS and other places related to PU, DJism or whatever self-improvement. I feel I am stuffed with so called wisdom, now it is time to try out if it really works for me and if it is that wise. In the end life is about trying out stuff.

Take the middle ground. Pick the best from everywhere to form your own stile. Your own life stile, your own moral code, whatever you want, you can create your own cooking code or whatever. Do crazy stuff, don't let anyone, not the Master DJ of all times tell you not to try something out and gain experience.

Well, I'm done. Ce you later DJgator...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Georgey

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take care honey... lol no really, gd luck, and i'd have to say that u're right bout what u said, but im pretty sure u'll be back soon coz u'll face some problems out there and u'll come back for help (which isnt bad at all), but u'll learn loads.. enjoy ur time!
 
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