Szarik
New Member
Hi fellas, long time reader of the board, first time poster. Before my post, just quickly wanted to say I really like what this forum is all about and what it teaches to us confused, male masses.
OK, remember when your parents (mostly Mom) was telling you to stand up straight? Stand up straight? Stand up straight!
I do. And for years heard how girls like the taller guys, or physically confident guys, etc. I always struggled with this and was always slumped over when walking (years of working at the computer probably didn't help this) and so, I was always looking down. I could never stand up straight and continue to look down at the same time for very long, it's hard to do. And so I gave up trying to do it and even thought that I should look down--this dragged on my confidence.
OK, this might be obvious, and maybe I'm a bit slow in figuring it out, but it seems to me that the key to a confident, open posture that women like, and that will make you feel more confident all starts from always keeping yourself looking at people eye-level. Do not look at your feet, do not look at the ground, if you look down and look down a lot, you're basically forcing your shoulders to slump and your posture to look meek and weak.
Now I write this because I think that like me, a lot of guys, have trouble with this, not for physical reasons (our backs are all strong enough, our muscles want to be straightened out naturally) but because we are nervous and shy. We don't want to make eye-contact, it's embarrasing, it feels weird. But you have to do it, first off, to talk to a woman or engage with her, you have to be looking at her, and the more you are looking up the more this posture becomes natural and easy.
In the last 6 months I have started forcing myself to look eye-level wherever I go, especially when I am on my own, in the house, at work, etc, if you have been slumped over for many years working at computers or desks, its hard to adjust at first, my back still hurts from time to time. Just try to look up as much as you can, find a point high up on a wall or door or something and keep doing it as you're walking around, and start alone in the house at first, and then try it walking down the street, etc. After awhile, it becomes much easier and automatic (even while sitting at the desk) and you'll be saying hi no problem.
Well, hopefully this will help someone on the board, for me looking down was always an automatic thing and I didn't really start noticing that I did it until a friend pointed it out to me, maybe this post will help some of you guys see your habit too.
Stand proudly men, even look up a bit instead of straight eye-level, let your chest stick out, stroll more slowly, maybe swagger a tiny bit... Well, maybe work up to these things.
-Szarik
P.S. I'd like to try and share my experience on the board, please tell me if this was helpful at all or not.
OK, remember when your parents (mostly Mom) was telling you to stand up straight? Stand up straight? Stand up straight!
I do. And for years heard how girls like the taller guys, or physically confident guys, etc. I always struggled with this and was always slumped over when walking (years of working at the computer probably didn't help this) and so, I was always looking down. I could never stand up straight and continue to look down at the same time for very long, it's hard to do. And so I gave up trying to do it and even thought that I should look down--this dragged on my confidence.
OK, this might be obvious, and maybe I'm a bit slow in figuring it out, but it seems to me that the key to a confident, open posture that women like, and that will make you feel more confident all starts from always keeping yourself looking at people eye-level. Do not look at your feet, do not look at the ground, if you look down and look down a lot, you're basically forcing your shoulders to slump and your posture to look meek and weak.
Now I write this because I think that like me, a lot of guys, have trouble with this, not for physical reasons (our backs are all strong enough, our muscles want to be straightened out naturally) but because we are nervous and shy. We don't want to make eye-contact, it's embarrasing, it feels weird. But you have to do it, first off, to talk to a woman or engage with her, you have to be looking at her, and the more you are looking up the more this posture becomes natural and easy.
In the last 6 months I have started forcing myself to look eye-level wherever I go, especially when I am on my own, in the house, at work, etc, if you have been slumped over for many years working at computers or desks, its hard to adjust at first, my back still hurts from time to time. Just try to look up as much as you can, find a point high up on a wall or door or something and keep doing it as you're walking around, and start alone in the house at first, and then try it walking down the street, etc. After awhile, it becomes much easier and automatic (even while sitting at the desk) and you'll be saying hi no problem.
Well, hopefully this will help someone on the board, for me looking down was always an automatic thing and I didn't really start noticing that I did it until a friend pointed it out to me, maybe this post will help some of you guys see your habit too.
Stand proudly men, even look up a bit instead of straight eye-level, let your chest stick out, stroll more slowly, maybe swagger a tiny bit... Well, maybe work up to these things.
-Szarik
P.S. I'd like to try and share my experience on the board, please tell me if this was helpful at all or not.
