"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So 2nd to last workout, i squated 285 for about 3-4 good reps of 5 sets (3rd and 4th rep needed a little help from spotter)... then my last workout I squatted 290 for about 2 solid reps by myself, and had to have a spot for the 2 more reps, again for 5 sets. I believe I'm reaching a stall on my squats. What can I do to break through? I was thinking of lowering the weight about 20lbs and adopting a wider stance; right now i have shoulder width stance, low bar, and go below parallel. I have concluded that my trouble is my hip drive; when coming out of the bottom for the 3rd rep, IT TAKES EVERYTHING in me to bring my hips foward and under the bar. Suggestions? my end of year goal is to squat 315-330ish with an atlethic squat stance (shoulder width). Thanks in advance!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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you raise a good point, i have been looking more into the mirror lately... I just read the article on deloading on stronglifts. I think 2 weeks of deloading, plus touch up on where to look/technique, might do it. If not, then I'll definitely look into smolov.

Thanks bud
 

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How long have you been on this routine? Habituation occurs after 4-6 weeks of a program, so if you've been doing the same lift without any variation for that long, you're going to start to see diminishing returns regardless.

Mix up your squat types if you're not already. Do front squats, back squats, hack squats, box squats, etc. Variety helps.

If you're deloading, you might want to consider something like the following. Something I read in a magazine a while ago, I can't remember it exactly but it was something along these lines:

Drop your squat weight by 30-60 lbs, do your full five sets. Follow it up with 3-5 sets of heavy Leg Presses. End with 3-5 sets of heavy Leg Extensions.

Go back to your usual squat routine after 2-3 weeks and you should see noticeable improvement.


Other exercises that come to mind: lunges, Romanian deadlifts, good mornings, and glute ham raises.
 

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I have concluded that my trouble is my hip drive; when coming out of the bottom for the 3rd rep, IT TAKES EVERYTHING in me to bring my hips foward and under the bar. Suggestions?
wrong use of hip drive. It's a squat not a deadlift your hips rise up they don't move forward under the bar.

As you descend your hips move backwards, as you begin to stand your hips go up while you, good morning, the weight.

As for your question, your talking about a plateau. Everyone gets stuck at a plateau, change the reps change the weight, try different squats for awhile try stiff leg dead lifts, perform only the lowering portion of the lift with heavier weight you can't lift etc..

If your bring your hips forward under the bar while your standing your not doing a back squat correctly.
 

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I'm pretty sure your hips come foward when coming out of the bottom.. at least from what i read in starting strength. I don't think it'd be safe for me to good morning that amount of weight. But thank you for the suggestions, all are welcome. Willing to try anything to reach my current goal.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I don't think it'd be safe for me to good morning that amount of weight
your wrong...as you become more experienced and you observe other experienced lifters you will realize this.
 

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mark says DRIVE UP, not drive forward :). you do a TINY goodmorning for about .5second after the rebound
 
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