"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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srrry peepo but help plzzz.....

sac_hot_male

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ok there was this one time when me and my friends we went to the mall...there was this one HB9 holla at us while working(she work at a fast food resturant in the mall).....when we was passing by she say"hey guys how it going".....me and my friends we all say good and fine at the same time.....whats wrost is that NONE of us make a move on her....the only reason why i didnt make a move on her was because i had the same school cloths to the mall and besides my hair was a bit nappy....

i'm pretty sure i'm going to go back to the mall pretty soon but this time to make a move on her.....

my point is that what should i say if this was to happen again.....

and what should i say to her when i went back to the mall and talk to her....i'm pretty sure i'm gonna check back on her


any advices would be pretyy helpful???
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Going after looks is nature. Nature automatically eliminates the uglies. Humans have attempted to seperate themselves and pull this "It's on the inside" stuff. What I say, shes gotta be a babe, and shes gotta have a good head on her shoulders. We'll take it from there.

As to the post. Don't get all worried. Never miss an oppourtunity. Talk to the girl. Get the number. DJ from there. Simple as that. She could be gorgeous, and you act as if shes just another girl. I don't care how banging she is. Typical everyday behavior. I repeat. Typical everyday behavior.
 

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ohhh yea huh....she holla at us n i hav to wrrry about my hair...dammit i'm dumb....since she holla she must b interested in us ....to tell the truth she was lookin at me the whole time while we were walkin past her.....


you still havnt tell me what to say to her when i went back there....i juss needed something that could help
 

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yea i get what you are trying to tell me perfectly but i question was "if that was to happen again , what do i say....and when i went back to the mall (which i will pretty soon) what do i say to her so i can start the conversation smoothly"......

any suggestion whould help
 

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Well you should had made a move on her the first time she gave you guys a signal. And try not to worry about your looks. By thinking about your looks while at the same time thinking what to say to her, is really not a good idea. The only thing you should be thinking is what to say, or on what to compliment, or what question should you ask her. Next time you go to the mall, wear nice cloth's, make sure shoes match your clothing, style your hair, and then just approach her with a kinda strong voice, make it soft and strong tone, so she focuses on you, sometimes guys approach women and say something really low that chiks cant understand or even hear. Anyways, when approaching her excuse yourself with a simple "Excuse me" or "Pardon me" Then just ask her a question, or compliment her, or say something like "HOw are you" Thats were it will all become easier, couse girls love to talk and she will be talking most of the time. good luck :)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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yea dont worry about the "putting on nice cloths" part...i got it under control....there's only two time i went to the mall w/ out then....1) was when i went w/ my friends (above duh) and 2) was when i was w/ my bro and they say that they were going somewhere which they didnt tell me and some how we just ended up going to the mall ....... well let's juss hope its not too late for me

ohhh yea and thank for taking the time and helping out
 

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sac_hot_male said:
yea dont worry about the "putting on nice cloths" part...i got it under control....there's only two time i went to the mall w/ out then....1) was when i went w/ my friends (above duh) and 2) was when i was w/ my bro and they say that they were going somewhere which they didnt tell me and some how we just ended up going to the mall ....... well let's juss hope its not too late for me

ohhh yea and thank for taking the time and helping out
I would read your post, but i dont feel like feeling like a 3 year old learning how to read. I know you can spell...so please just do it.
 
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