"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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bukowski_merit

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my friend did this - and actually prevented his 5+ years ltr from cheating on him (she was openly debating with a guy on myspace if she should cheat with him - she really wanted to but kept stalling).

my friend thought something was up and installed the logger - found all these emails to a guy. got her myspace info - logged into her account and read his emails to her. the guy was doing some heavy convincing and my friends girl was leaning more and more towards trying it.

he confronted her about it - told her he came home, got on the computer and her myspace email was open and something caught his eye and he read it. basically telling her he read everything after that and knew everything.

she cried and tried to blame it on him for 'invading her privacy' - he had to come live with me for 3 days... but she took him back... she also cut her contact with the other guy and admitted she was wrong.

so it worked... but, be warned... my friend to this day - reads everything she does online just waiting for her to slip up again. i don't believe that's anyway to live your life - and he does seem obsessed with it. i'd even bet if they break up - he does it to the next one...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Stewie666 said:
I would like to install a spy software on my computer to find out what does my girlfriend do while I'm at work.
Bad, bad boyfriend! Bad!
You're degrading yourself just to satisfy your pride? Why don't you be upfront about it with her if you're thinking about spying on her like that?
 

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What would a woman's girlfriends advise her if she asked them:

"Should I put a keystroke logger or some other 'spy' software on my own personal computer in my own home? I worried Bubba might be running around. He uses my computer sometimes."


I know the answer. But, does it matter, or even relate here?

Is it even "spying"? It's the computer that the owner controls. If another "user" (the GF) uses it to cheat on the owner, is it "wrong" to seek to know that?

I don't know. But I DO know that it isn't wrong to use your own stuff as you wish. And that includes putting whatever software he WANTS on his OWN computer. If she's stupid enough to use HIS computer to cheat, she DESERVES to get caught.
 

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LOL

In the Army our motto was "In God we trust, all others we monitor!". That is a maxim to live by. Knowledge is power.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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