"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Spur of the moment group date

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So heres my weekend. Woman I know (HB8), out of the blue calls me up on Friday and asks me if I wanna go out that night. Background info. We are friends, but I haven't really spoken to her in weeks/month. We don't exactly see each other very often, but still... we're friends. So that kinda shocked me that she called cuz it was totally out of the blue. Anyway, it wasn't just the 2 of us. More of her friends going and a guy friend of hers. So its this mix of people most of which I don't even know, but I wing it and go and see where this is headed.

Nothing of consequence happened that night. I thought, because she had called ME and asked ME out that she might have something up her sleeve and maybe flirt with me ,...but nothing. In fact her guy friend (not a bf) kinda c*$k blocked me. I could tell he was invited and was perhaps thinking the same thing as me. Anyway a whole lot of nothing happens and frankly I didn't even have that much fun.

The next day I get a text ..blah blah..back and forth a couple times and at the end she says "we have to do it again soon". Do what? Frankly it was a boring night and I got nothing from it.

Not sure what she wanted to accomplish on this night or why I was invited literally the day of going out. Wasn't asked a week ahead of time or even a day. I was asked that day. I know by not having prior plans and going I probably showed some weakness but I kinda had to go just to see what this was all about. Not sure if she's interested cuz she sure didn't seem so that night. We barely spoke. Also unsure as to what role this guy friend plays in all of it.

Confused
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Vypros

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If you didn't have fun on the outing then you shouldn't really be worrying why she called you. What you SHOULD be doing is a whole lot of forgetting her ass and not answering your phone when you see her number.
 

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I hear ya Vypros...but was just wondering what it was all about and if she was sincere in saying she had fun? Cuz I know I was bored, but maybe these women have diff guages on fun.

IS she trying to string me along. Did she want me and this other guy to make a move. Playing games>

Your right..move on..but justed wanted someone elses opinion
 

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who cares!!!

I hope you answered back with; "sure, maybe next time we can actually do something"

trying to read in between lines, and trying to disyfer (Sp?) what people are trying to do is a waste of time.....if people have an agenda IT'S ALWAYS OBVIOUS.....it radiates from them....
 

PectoralisMajor

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Yep - Who cares. You were bored and if she were bored she'd drop you without a second thought.

I'd suggest unless you have better plans forgetting about her. Until you get better plans you could keep her as a going out backup option - she might have some worthy friends with some excitement to offer eh.....
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yeah I'd like to keep her on the backburner...could possibly turn into something with a little pursuit. I'm not too concerned with her. Just wanted to know how these women have a blast and a guy can have a shi**y time..and yet they are both at the same place at the same time. Who we kidding? Unless she is also trying to string me along too.

I assume she is somewhat interested ..if not i wouldn't even have gotten a follow up response afterwards.. and a positive response at that
 
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