"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Sports / Activities / Interests that build self confidence.

Demodulate

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What activities do you do that build self confidence.

I use to train Muay Thai a few years ago and it helped my confidence big time.. I could look anyone in the eye I knew I could go toe to toe with anyone and hold my own. I had girls I had just met making out with me in clubs, a 20 something FB, and I was in the best shape of my life.

Then my back let go and I ended up having surgery, and all new confidence eroded away.. It was a long road back to normal for me, I couldn't really do Muay Thai anymore, it was to rough. I went back to school for my MBA, and when I could I started working out, and doing Brazilain Jiu Jitsu..

Confidence returned.. I ended up meeting an awesome girl in the MBA program, we graduated together, life was on track.. Hurt my back again in BJJ, 2 months later the girl dumped me, I returned to BJJ and the second time back I tore my shoulder up requiring surgery.

so here I am back to square one, recovering from surgery, unable to really work out. Confidence is pretty low..

Does anyone have anything they do that gives them a confidence boost?

hopefully something low impact..
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Does anyone have anything they do that gives them a confidence boost?

hopefully something low impact..
How about shuffleboard?
:)
 

Demodulate

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Strelok said:
Fire weapons?

dont really see that doing anything to build confidence..

I have a closet full of guns, and it never made me feel like more of a man, like knowing I could knock someone out did..
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Dear Demodulate,
There is really only ONE activity that I know of that combines:Fitness,building Social Skills and exercising the Brain....Dancing......For you the gentlest Dancing is without doubt Argentine Tango.....It is a walking Dance and your therapist should know about it before he condemns it....But,but,but, it is hard for a Man to learn....The rewards are really great,in that there are nearly two Women to every Male....Most of the Women are quality,usually well educated and polite.certainly better than much of the dross you get in Bars and Clubs...I took this type of dancing up when I developed Arthritis in both Hips....It was good,so gentle on the joints indeed,that five weeks after having my joints replaced,I was back Dancing.
 

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Scaramouche said:
Dear Demodulate,
There is really only ONE activity that I know of that combines:Fitness,building Social Skills and exercising the Brain....Dancing......For you the gentlest Dancing is without doubt Argentine Tango.....It is a walking Dance and your therapist should know about it before he condemns it....But,but,but, it is hard for a Man to learn....The rewards are really great,in that there are nearly two Women to every Male....Most of the Women are quality,usually well educated and polite.certainly better than much of the dross you get in Bars and Clubs...I took this type of dancing up when I developed Arthritis in both Hips....It was good,so gentle on the joints indeed,that five weeks after having my joints replaced,I was back Dancing.

this is excellent.. I might even have a lady friend who would go with me..
 

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There's nothing more alluring to women than a man who has swagger, who's unafraid to dip her.

My buddies gave me sh!t when I started taking Ballroom lessons.

Then they saw the ass I pulled. Now they're taking lessons.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
There's nothing more alluring to women than a man who has swagger, who's unafraid to dip her.

My buddies gave me sh!t when I started taking Ballroom lessons.

Then they saw the ass I pulled. Now they're taking lessons.
Yep, hands down, ballroom and latin dancing is the #1 way to improve your confidence, skills and pull a$$.
Improves your posture, provides a regular weekly activity and gives you INSTANT access to a lot of women who will compete for you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dear Demodulate,
Thankyou for being receptive to the Argentine Tango....Salsa is certainly the Dance for most people to learn,perhaps it is OK for you,on the OtherHand! It is very fast....Avoid R&Roll and any Dance where you are stomping....Never,Never Disco or T Bag...Write To Jo and ask him about the effectiveness of Gelatine....If I had got onto it earlier I would have avoided Surgery!By the way the Culture in Tango is to constantly change partners....I would Ideally take a Girl who is a Tango Dancer already,two beginners are not that Cool,in the early stages of lessons,four out of five women drop out and nine out of ten Men!So initially you find more Men but as your skill develops you are into Green Pastures.
 

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Wilderness survival training activities did wonders for my confidence.

Go out into the woods with just enough equipment and food to get by (your call) and see how long you can last (or get bored).

Mountaineering also makes me feel like a beast.
 
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