"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Spinsters, today and yesteryear

TonyBaloney

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So, after reading an excellent post by HBK, it occurred to me on just how similar so many of our storys are.

I thought about HBK and his ex girl, and had an allegorical fly on the wall look on how they were once upon a time, and how the course of their lives turned out.

I then thought about his ex, my ex, and alot of the ex's who have been mentioned on here.

We have all heard of the old playboy, the old roux or letch; the type of man who is unable to settle down due to womanising never leaving his veins.

Do you think the same is true for certain types of women? That they are forever destined to be single, and unable to settle. That the `spinsters` or old ladys shuffling around, the great aunts who remained childless, the strange cat lady up the road from us, were once upon a time, the kinda ex's we here about on SS - and furthermore, is it nature or nurture????

Would be interested to here your thoughts on this unusual historical perspective
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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LoneRanger

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Correct. The old spinsters seen in old family photos are no more different than today but dressed different.

There was one I was attracted to and like but she seemed too stand off-ish to ever be able to connect to a man. Too bad. Her and I could have had a lot of great times together but its not to be.

Plus copping the independant Feminism attitude (which most are not capable of in practice) does not help.

Sometimes women have been brought up to think sex is dirty and have been wired in a way that being touched by a man is bad. Oh well.
 

MatureDJ

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A spinster is basically a woman who during her young attractive years just doesn't have a strong enough urge to reproduce and/or have sex, to give herself to a man. Perhaps she actually did want to reproduce and/or have sex with a high enough status man, but just hasn't been able to secure such a man (i.e., this is known as being stuck up.) All with the result that she is too old - and relatively too stuck up - to attract a man at her advances age.
 
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