MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
LOL B1TCH nicely done...spin hamster spin...I left the love of my life because I thought I could do better. Now I'm childless and alone at 42
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Did you read this? it seems a kid complaining that his enginner dad is not as cool as his friend's fire brigadeer dad.Why couldn't he drive a normal car? Things that now seem incredibly insignificant began to niggle.
I began to wish he was more sophisticated and earned more. I felt envious of friends with better-off partners, who were able to support them as they started their families.
I stopped seeing Matthew as my equal. I stopped seeing all the qualities that had made me fall in love with him - his fierce intelligence, our shared sense of humour, his determination not to follow the crowd. Instead, I saw someone who was holding me back.
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Exactly!zekko said:Pfft. If this guy came back to her today, she'd probably eventually get bored with him again and dump him.
I've seen it time and time again... The nature of women is to forever be in love with the first significant bf they ever had. They will always be comparing the new men to him and will never successfully move on. Any man who follows in the footsteps of the significant ex will never live up to her expectations.Danger said:At the end of the day however, she left him because she thought she could do better. Now, when it is too late, she realizes how wrong she was.
I tend to agree with this but at the same time lets not forget the "war brides" phenomenon.Desdinova said:I've seen it time and time again... The nature of women is to forever be in love with the first significant bf they ever had. They will always be comparing the new men to him and will never successfully move on. Any man who follows in the footsteps of the significant ex will never live up to her expectations.
Men are the only ones who can truly move on and find success with a new woman.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The example of her ex is completely contradictory to this statement:Ever wonder why she returns to the abusive boyfriend she hopes will change for her? Look no further than feminine solipsism.
If women have such an easy time writing guys off, then why is this ex still so damn significant? Here's the way I see it...Women seem to have a better ability to accept emotional sacrifice and move on, either ignoring those stresses or blocking them entirely from their conscious awareness.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.