Spinning plates

[Devintems]

Hello, I'm brand new to this site, but I have been reading Rollo's The Rational Male.

I'm 31, divorced, and work two jobs to pay child support. I also live with my mom because of it, which is a whole other topic. My evenings off are Tuesday's and every other Friday. This makes it very difficult to spin more than 1 or 2 plates at a time. I've been able to do more in the past, but it ended up being more than I could handle.

Any suggestions?

 

[hithard]

Is your current living / financial situation temporary or long term?

 

[Tictac]

One isn't spinning plates. Two is. And just because you are 'spinning plates' does not mean you see every plate every week. You can do lots of spontaneous 'dates' that don't involve spending much or sometimes any money.

If two is what you can handle, go for two and keep your options open.

You've got a lot going on and where you live right now isn't going to help. But don't sweat the details. As you 'get on your feet' the things you do now will set the stage for better things.

 

[Cejay]

I've been through that too.

If you are dating a divorced women then she is likely going to understand the need to live with your mom as she will have needed some help too. (Probably)

Women who haven't been divorced aren't going to understand and are going to filter you because of it, even though your living situation should be commended, rather than something you can't afford and racking up debt which is the female way to handle it.


Remember, women are going to sh1t test you and ask you all kinds of things. You do NOT I repeat DO NOT need to answer all of their questions. Avoid anything that you deem none of their business.

CJ

 

[Devintems]

Is your current living / financial situation temporary or long term?

Definitely long term. Financially I'm in a downward spiral. I'm working on a few things to ease the pressure, but it will be awhile.

 

[teebear]

Maybe reframe your living arrangement to appear as though it is YOU helping out your mom in some manner, not the other way around.

 

[Devintems]

Maybe reframe your living arrangement to appear as though it is YOU helping out your mom in some manner, not the other way around.

I could try. But I am honest to a fault. It makes me paranoid.

Honestly, living with my mom has been a problem, but it is far from my biggest one. My biggest problem is time. And being blown off hurts far more than it normally would because it's usually the only free time I will have for weeks, and suddenly it's wasted. Nothing is more infuriating!

 

[Poon King]

I find it odd you are making women such a big priority when you have so much other crap going on that you need to fix ASAP.

Get your sh!t together so you can live a life of freedom and abundance. Make that your only goal right now. As far as women go.. you should just be f*cking and chucking. If I was in your situation I wouldn't be worried about keeping several dumb b!tches interested in me while my life is in a state of disrepair.

Women are ALWAYS a financial and emotional drain on you UNLESS you have your sh!t together. So all guys who don't have their sh!t together should either become gigolos, marry rich women or stick strictly to f*cking and chucking.

 

[Devintems]

Well the ****ing and chucking is the primary idea.

My financial situation isn't going anywhere. "Getting my **** together" is about as doable as telling someone with cancer to just be healthier. I can't change my financial situation. But I'm not going to stop living just cause I have problems

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Devintemps,
TBear has a sound suggestion there...Forget about the being honest to a fault...That sort of attitude is incompatible with spinning plates...Make your choice,be a little creative in your approach or resign yourself to a celibate lifestyle!