"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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spinning plates is a lot like bull riding

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I know a girl from some mutual friends who is absoutly drop dead gorgeous. I mean, she hit the power ball jackpot when it comes to looks. and i don't mean just like, oh she has a cute face or hey she has nice ass and bit tits, she is about what, 5'9, jet black hair, she's half cherokee (seriously) and half white and has this very tan/exotic look to her and these high cheekbones that you don't see women with normally, she can't be more than 110 pounds.. just excludes sexiness. not just sexiness, she's very exotic sexy she's the type of sexy you don't see everyday and i live in LA.

and on top of that she knows how to work it. she wears clothdes where you can see her thong through her pants, she wears clothes that show off her figure which is, damn near perfect. i've seen some pictures of these broads some of you are pinning over this girl is on 2 entirely new levels lol. i mean, just hot. no flaws. she even has pretty feet lol.

i say all that to say, you can give me all the just be yourself bull**** , all the i don't need a girl in my life bull****, I've seen guys who under normal circumstances with normal girls be in charge just go absoutly ape**** around her and lose all sense beucase she's just that hot.

this is my point; you ever get board and watch those little rodeo shows where they are riding the bulls. and they are in the little gate and the bull is acting like a bull and you got one guy who looks like he is about to die lol and you got like 3 other guys who are sitting there and holding whatever it is they hold and tiring **** up and locking stuff down on the bull riding gear and they are checking stuff and then the dude on teh bull gives the little head nod and they open the gate and off they go.

this girl is the bull. she's the biggest baddest bull and you want to ride her. but here is the thing. you can't ride the bull by yourself.

to ride this bull (girl) you have to have a stable of plates to ground you, to keep you in check so that you handle the big bad ass bull like it(she) needs to be handled.

Honestly and I have more game than just about tall of you lol I wouldn't dare try to date this board or game her if i didn't have a solid stable of 2-3 other plates that i know i can fall back on. lol well i wouldn't try to date her anyway for reasons i wont' get into in this thread, but if i did, i'm not even sure i could handle her alone. to tame a girl like this, if youw ant to play in the big leagues, if you want to go in the bull ring and get the biggest, baddest bull and get on the bull and wear it's ass down, you got to have your bull riding crew.

that's what plates allow you to do. plates allow you to treat a girl that every other guy in the room is going stupid over like a regular ass girl should be treated. if not for plates there is no way in hell i would have married what i married.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I read this when you first posted it, and it's taken some time for it to sink in.

I like this.

It's like the act of keeping balanced on the wild bull is keeping one's own inner DJ mentality strong and balanced. No matter how weathered and toughened we become through the rejections and flakes, they will always sting. And the more attracted we are to the girl, the harder it will sting. The lesser bulls are there to ease the pain and allow us to regain balance before we fall.
 
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