"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Spinning Plates + Facebook?

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So I've been wanting to get a facebook for a while now, cause its honestly so much easier to keep in contact with friends through it, especially the ones in college. I've always been hesitant though cause I spin a good amount of plates at any one time, and my worry was that facebook would completely shut that down all together because of the lack of privacy. So.....my question is do you feel like it would stop me from spinning my plates or am I just overthinking it?


P.S. I'd really like to hear from you moderators too cause you guys go through tons of posts and you probably know best
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Triple T

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Instead of posting on people's walls you can just send them a Message. Its private, only you and the recipient can see it.

So spin all you want! :up:

btw, I think if your extra girls see a bunch of other girls posting on your wall, they'll think highly of you. They'll think your the kind of guy that attracts lots of girls, could only mean more social proof and they'll get abit jealous over you ;)
At least thats what I do, and its worked pretty well so far.

Just don't go sending them a message EVERYDAY. Let them have time to miss you, think about you. You don't want to be "too" available. (interenet does this)
 

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Facebook is a bad idea, as is any internet based social networking, for spinning plates.

Such websites allow more access to you, something you want to minimize.
 

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dude, dont, unless you send them a private messge (PM). every chick goes and reads what her other friends say to each other about guys, and what guys they like say to other girls. it'll totally **** your plate spinning.
 

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You can turn off your wall and your relationship status. I've been spinning plates on Facebook for awhile and it works great, I mean no one thinks it's weird if you message them there because they let you add them to their contacts. ;-)

So yeah, Facebook is an awesome tool for meeting women. It works even better in High School. If you'd like I can add you to mine and give you more tips and the such.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Lucivar said:
So I've been wanting to get a facebook for a while now, cause its honestly so much easier to keep in contact with friends through it, especially the ones in college. I've always been hesitant though cause I spin a good amount of plates at any one time, and my worry was that facebook would completely shut that down all together because of the lack of privacy. So.....my question is do you feel like it would stop me from spinning my plates or am I just overthinking it?
First off bro, you're definitely overthinking it!

No need to be hesitant about this.... It's actually a very good tool to expand your social network
(It's even been proven to add some rapport to previously hopeless BAFCs!!! :crackup: )

Just imagine coming in contact with a chick who you haven't seen in forever and it turns out that she wants your c0ck all of a sudden ;)

And Facebook doesn't shut down ALL your privacy ----> you can actually play with the privacy settings to change how much online snooping people can do about you, So no need to worry about that :up:

But if you're just looking for some more pu$$y to add to your harem, I might suggest Myspace as a slightly more effective tool for this -----> The girls on there are a bit more promiscuous & are sluttier by far! :p

So if your looking for a several one night stands, Myspace might be your more effective weapon of choice :D

And since I can tell that you're pretty new to all this internet game, I might suggest you check out "The Official Facebook Thread" & "The Official Myspace Thread" right here on Don Juan Forums :cool:
 

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Rhoto said:
Facebook is a bad idea, as is any internet based social networking, for spinning plates.
Are you assuming right off the bat that all social networking sites are automatically a bad idea and have no potential whatsoever to improve a person's rapport with women & increase their sexual opportunities?

I find that to be a completely narrow-minded & not too thought-out answer :down:


Rhoto said:
Such websites allow more access to you, something you want to minimize.
And why exactly is "access to you" such a horrible thing?

Isn't the only way to expand your current social network & meet new women is to open up?, not to mention the countless number of women that will be contacting YOU (as a result of their own interest in you :up: )

It seems to me that you're implying that the only way to maintain your level of attractiveness to women is to remain mysterious & introverted......

Although I can see where you're coming from with this,
I firmly believe that a cool, confident extrovert (much like myself ;) ) has the highest chance of getting women chasing after him!
Wouldn't you agree?
 

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dude, dont, unless you send them a private messge (PM). every chick goes and reads what her other friends say to each other about guys, and what guys they like say to other girls. it'll totally **** your plate spinning.
No it won't!!! :cuss:

Wouldn't this logically have the exact opposite effect of screwing up your spinning plate? ----->
It would actually make the chick jealous, therefore, causing her to amp up her efforts to gain your attention
(females can't help but see all others of there own gender as potential competiton, which all works in your benefit of course ;) )

Not to mention, a little bit of envy will strike her heart everytime she sees you become "friends" will a chick she doesn't know :crackup:

As long as you don't fall into the trap of maintaining that she's the only one you truly care about & she's the only girl for you,
your plates will just keep on spinning & spinning :up:
 

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OTB said:
Are you assuming right off the bat that all social networking sites are automatically a bad idea and have no potential whatsoever to improve a person's rapport with women & increase their sexual opportunities?

I find that to be a completely narrow-minded & not too thought-out answer :down:
That's fine that you think that, I'm speaking from experience, something that at 17, I'm afraid you may lack. And yes, using the internet to further your sex life is a waste of band with in my view. Why?

Hot chicks don't need the internet.

OTB said:
And why exactly is "access to you" such a horrible thing?
Because your attention, time and presence should be privileged. If you're some one eager to become buddy buddy with women right off the bat, you're placed in the "easy" bin if you will. Normally you are no longer treated as a potential sexual object, but a friend.

Think of the CEO of a major corporation. You can call his office all want, but to actually get face time, you have to prove that you're worthy of his time. This is the same way you should view your interactions with women, only accept the highest quality.

Personally I don't use Facebook, MySpace etc. but if I did, I'd set it to the highest privacy rating possible. That is what I suggest you, or any one insisting on using them do.


Isn't the only way to expand your current social network & meet new women is to open up?, not to mention the countless number of women that will be contacting YOU (as a result of their own interest in you :up: )
Opening up? Are you crazy?


It seems to me that you're implying that the only way to maintain your level of attractiveness to women is to remain mysterious & introverted......
Essentially. But not introverted, simply selective in your conversation.

Although I can see where you're coming from with this,
I firmly believe that a cool, confident extrovert (much like myself ;) ) has the highest chance of getting women chasing after him!
Wouldn't you agree?
Sure, why not?
 

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Nah, I'm not really looking to start internet gaming. I've decided that I will get a facebook and try to make it as private as possible. The worst that'll happen is that a couple of girls get mad, at which point I can easily get rid of my account.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I SPIN PLATES LOL

I think you know the answer already.. Whats wrong with just calling girls? Msn, etc?

People ask me Yo Love do you have facebook? And I tell them the truth, I don't have time to be clicking around doing all that nonesense.

I only even use MSN for messages in case people can't wait the 3 minutes my voicemail message is to leave one - weeds out whats important from what isnt, and there's some bob marley to calm their souls. Could you be loved?

I SPIN PLATES LOL
 
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