"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Spinning plates; double dates (Slam on the breaks!)

Jaggs

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So I understand the idea of dating multiple woman or having them as backup at any point, because it helps in almost every way.

But what do you say to them? I have one girl that organized to go out with once she gets back from holiday, but she is always pestering me to as why I always go out with different woman (Just random girls, half I don't even pursue further). I just smiled and shrugged it off, and sometimes she seems a bit apprehensive because I see other girls, but she always comes back. It seems her past boyfriends have taught her the AFC behaviour of someone dropping everything for the chick; becoming instantly exclusive and her 'boyfriend' (instant puddy in her hands).
Is this the right thing to do?
Is jealousy really a good thing to create?

I had a fling with this seperate girl (girl A), and then went distant/saw other people for a while. She's recently broke up with her new boyfriend to see me again. I'm happy to give it a shot, she knows I don't want have a proper girlfriend and just want casual sex. But in the meantime I met one of her close friends (gIRL B) and we also hit it off and organized to go out. She's great too and has high interest level. Girl A barges into one of activity Girl B and I are doing (happening in a few days) and makes it a group activity (they agree, being friends and all). How do you do this? Do I just act the same to both of them, be playful just like normal? Do I want to be seen as some sort of wh0re or something?
And tonight, girl no1 (has gone spastic), and is trying to organize coming over my house tomorrow BEFORE the group incident as well. Trying to get in early or something.

Can you get away with doing this? Or will once I go for one I fail with the other immediately ( I really don't want to, they are both nice).

Is it ever possible to game two woman who are close friends?
what do you say when you move things along with one girl, and she finds out you are with other woman? Do you just HAVE to make it clear at the start that its casual?

I mean to start this as only a moral question/discussion, sometimes my (ever fading) morals and societal standards dawn on me like this. Even my parent have started to ask me why I bring so many random girls to hangout at home, or go out with so many different random people.

But in my (limited but growing) experience, woman just go with their nature anyway. They just don't actually care (well they might show it/pretend, but in the end they still do it anyway). But they cant let people know, or else be labeled as a slut. This is why they give you that curious and strange look. Sometimes they will literally say one thing and do the COMPLETE opposite. Its just like cutting through their bull**** like butter with a hot knife, and getting straight to the point. :eek:

I used to be amazed at the power 'naturals' had, to just do whatever with a chick, and get away with it... but lately its falling into place for me and the same is happening.

:rockon: The world sure looks and acts differen't when you lose any AFC tendencies.

Discuss.

(Hope this post makes sense to at least one person; I am quite far gone from this planet tonight).
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Jaggs said:
:rock:

So I understand the idea of dating multiple woman or having them as backup at any point, because it helps in almost every way.

But what do you say to them? I have one girl that organized to go out with once she gets back from holiday, but she is always pestering me to as why I always go out with different woman (Just random girls, half I don't even pursue further). I just smiled and shrugged it off, and sometimes she seems a bit apprehensive because I see other girls, but she always comes back. It seems her past boyfriends have taught her the AFC behaviour of someone dropping everything for the chick; becoming instantly exclusive and her 'boyfriend' (instant puddy in her hands).
Is this the right thing to do?
Is jealousy really a good thing to create?

I had a fling with this seperate girl (girl A), and then went distant/saw other people for a while. She's recently broke up with her new boyfriend to see me again. I'm happy to give it a shot, she knows I don't want have a proper girlfriend and just want casual sex. But in the meantime I met one of her close friends (gIRL B) and we also hit it off and organized to go out. She's great too and has high interest level. Girl A barges into one of activity Girl B and I are doing (happening in a few days) and makes it a group activity (they agree, being friends and all). How do you do this? Do I just act the same to both of them, be playful just like normal? Do I want to be seen as some sort of wh0re or something?
And tonight, girl no1 (has gone spastic), and is trying to organize coming over my house tomorrow BEFORE the group incident as well. Trying to get in early or something.

Can you get away with doing this? Or will once I go for one I fail with the other immediately ( I really don't want to, they are both nice).

Is it ever possible to game two woman who are close friends?
what do you say when you move things along with one girl, and she finds out you are with other woman? Do you just HAVE to make it clear at the start that its casual?

I mean to start this as only a moral question/discussion, sometimes my (ever fading) morals and societal standards dawn on me like this. Even my parent have started to ask me why I bring so many random girls to hangout at home, or go out with so many different random people.

But in my (limited but growing) experience, woman just go with their nature anyway. They just don't actually care (well they might show it/pretend, but in the end they still do it anyway). But they cant let people know, or else be labeled as a slut. This is why they give you that curious and strange look. Sometimes they will literally say one thing and do the COMPLETE opposite. Its just like cutting through their bull**** like butter with a hot knife, and getting straight to the point. :eek:

I used to be amazed at the power 'naturals' had, to just do whatever with a chick, and get away with it... but lately its falling into place for me and the same is happening.

:rockon: The world sure looks and acts differen't when you lose any AFC tendencies.

Discuss.

(Hope this post makes sense to at least one person; I am quite far gone from this planet tonight).
The feeling of success your experiencing is uncomfortable because you've never been this successful before. Don't be your own barrier to success, don't be your own barrier to your own happiness.

You have to remember why you personally want to date multiple women e.g. have a solid rotation of wifey material to play with, learn the difference between quality women and quality b.s.ers, and if your the marrying type, having the ability to choose, obtain, and select your future wife & possible mother of your child. Whatever's natural to you and you feel like doing, do it.

Threesomes most often happen with women who are good friends and are sexually attracted to the same guy. Can you get away with it? As long as you truly believe so. Get used to getting what you want.

There is no such thing as can't: only will and won't.
 
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