Spinning Multiple Plates - Need Expert DJ Opinions/Advice

[DJKid]

So just like the subject says I am seeing about 3 chicks right now.... The thing is I basically have them think that they are the only ones I am seeing... so sometimes when I am out with them one of the other girls calls and I usually ignore the call or pretend its someone else and cut the convo short...

However we all know girls are competitive and their IL can go up if they see other women are interested in you.... but at the same time it can also kill you if a girl isn't looking for a player and senses you are 1.....


So all that being said... what is the best way to make it known that girls are interested in me but not seem like a player with no feelings???

 

[DJKid]

dang where the experts at lol

 

[macallik]

I'm working on gettin some plates going in my journal (key word: working)

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=90482
^^^Read this entire thread. Great responses throughout

As for your case, there is nothing wrong with alluding to the fact that they are the only girl, but once you verbalize it, you start digging a hole for yourself. You have lies to keep up and it is usually just a matter of time before it all comes crashing down

The general consensus seems to be that you let the girl know from the get go so that you don't lead each other on or anything. You will be surprised at how many girls are okay with it (or at least say they are okay with it initially)

However, if a girl is a catch and you KNOW she is looking for an exclusive relationship, you still tell her you are looking for an open relationship, but LATER in the relationship, after you know she has fallen for you. If you tell her too soon, then she can leave before she has invested any time or emotions in you as a person, but once she has had a good taste of what is possible the decision becomes much more difficult

 

[Sandow]

So just like the subject says I am seeing about 3 chicks right now.... The thing is I basically have them think that they are the only ones I am seeing... so sometimes when I am out with them one of the other girls calls and I usually ignore the call or pretend its someone else and cut the convo short...

However we all know girls are competitive and their IL can go up if they see other women are interested in you.... but at the same time it can also kill you if a girl isn't looking for a player and senses you are 1.....


So all that being said... what is the best way to make it known that girls are interested in me but not seem like a player with no feelings???

I just typed a super long response to this question and then i got kicked off when I went to submit it. Sweet.

So I'll just sum it up. Don't try and impress your girls. Don't worry about trying to make them see you as a stud. When you spin plates it will naturally make you look like your busy and in demand. So don't answer the phone when next to your plate or brag about your options cause she will next you.

Your going to be busy so girls will automatically assume you're with another girl And this will obviously make them jealous. But if you think about it guys do the exact same thing; we always think the worst if she doesn't answer the phone or is too busy. There's a psychological term for it but I forgot what it was.

Also it's important to be patient. I can even tell you how many girls I have pulled by just being patient. Girls hate being rushed! When getting involved and interested with someone it takes girls quite awhile, while it takes guys a very short time. So...have a cool demeanor and before you know it girls will be banging down your door.

Bottom line: It will naturally seem like you are the prize and in demand as long as you are spinning your plates, so don't try to verbalize how you are pimpdaddy or answer your ph or anything immature like that. Play it cool and you'll be fine.

 

[DJKid]

Thank you Sandow, I agree with that completely. However if the phone rings while I'm with a plate and its another plate... but not answering doesn't it make it look like i'm hiding something? What do you normally do in that situation?

 

[DJKid]

bump

 

[The Bat]

Why don't you just answer and say, "Hey! Listen, I'm busy right now. Let me call you back in an hour."?

This way, you don't piss off the plate on the phone and let her know that you're busy. AND the plate you're with knows that you are in demand and other people want to hang with you. (You don't have to tell the plate that a girl called you...just say that it was a "friend" who wanted to "hang" with you)

I let my plates know from the beginning that I'm a "free bird" and I'm all about having "fun". Girls aren't stupid and they'll know what you're talking about when you are purposely vague like that talking about your relationship status. Now, if she brings up exclusivity later down the road, you just say, "Listen baby, I'm having a lot of fun with you. Let's not ruin it by trapping ourselves in a cage of "relationship". I'm a free bird and so are you...otherwise we wouldn't have had such a grand time all these past months."

Alright, maybe you don't have to verbalize it like that, but you get the point. Either way, you win because she can't make you into a bad guy or a "player". You just tell her that you had let her know from the beginning what you were all about. It's her fault for thinking otherwise or trying to change you.

 

[COD]

SET UP AN AUTO RESPONSE.......FOR EACH GIRL.......either text or return voicemail message. Phones allow u to select different ringtones for different people. When a certain chic calls, they get a certain AUTO voicemail/text from you.

Never make chics the only one, never say they are the only one.........U are just causually dating. Exclusive rights to date you means they better step up to the plate and make an enticing offer. By far the easiest way to avoid one-i-tis.....spin plates.

Remember a tactic known is a tactic blown...........just her thinking there might be a slight chance she is NOT the only one should do enough. What you do on your own time is your own business and vice versa for her. Like a convicted criminal going to the electric chair.........DENY EVERYTHING

 

[COD]

also.......there was a song a few years back........IT WASN'T ME....reggae song....sums it up.

 

[Cashew]

Thank you Sandow, I agree with that completely. However if the phone rings while I'm with a plate and its another plate... but not answering doesn't it make it look like i'm hiding something? What do you normally do in that situation?

I never pick up my phone when out with only one other person, date or otherwise. This is an instance you don't need to pretend to be busy... you ARE busy. Plus if your date sees that you don't answer the phone when with her, she might assume that when you don't answer to her call you are out with some other girl. So no matter who calls, don't answer the phone. You can talk to whoever later and on your own time.