"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Spicing up events in the relationship?

choychoy12

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been with girl 4 months, everyday, same random ****
Things are still good between us, but we've had many arguments, went on a break for a while, but girl wanted to get back togehter.

And now it feels like she only wants to do boring stuff, like stay home watch movie, or bum, Its like she doesnt want to do any of the things i want to do, like go bowling, or go mountain climbing, or skiing, none of the fun things i like to do.

I've tried to push like, today were going here. But she just wont listen, she's just like have fun. Or i have something else planned as a joke. It gets on my nerves. But its not like I can force her to do anything she doesnt want to.
Ideas?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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squirrels

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If you're really that bored with her, just stop asking her out.

Now that you're "together", it doesn't mean you HAVE to be "together" forever or keep seeing her even when it's no fun.

Maybe it's time to see other girls. :woo:

See if you can find one who likes to have fun. ;)
 

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Well yer, the thing is, i have 2 other girls that like me. And i did the whole, playing behind her back thing. At one stage, i was considering nexting her and going for this other girl.


But Gf wanted me back so i gave in.
The things is, I can go out with the other girls anytime no problem.

But Gf. calls everyday to do something.

So I'm like sure, lets do something. It allways ends up being a verbal struggle of
"So what do you want to do".
I dunno what do you want to do? Think of something. etc.

You get the point.

I pull out ideas like what i want to do, she rejects them all and says lets stay home and watch tv.

****s me.

I'm not bored of her, she's adorable. I'd say a hb8 many guys are after her. Which is another thing that ****s me. Beacuse a **** load of guys flirt and try and hit on her. But she always comes back to me ;)

what ****s me is, we always have to agree on something that we both want to do. Of course I'll agree on TV, because i have nothing against TV. But its no fun. And I'd rather her, do things with me that I want to do.

Okay, well besides the point. Can you guys give me some ideas on some fun things to do to keep the relatinoship spicy? Besides sex of course.

I'm just thinking that, if we keep going with the same random **** evreyday, we'll get bored of each other and I'll next her or vice versa.
 

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you need to tell your gurll to get a life. she is the one cosing the bordom, not you (if your making all the suggestions) tell her unless she makes an effort to keep you less bored, you'll leave
 
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