Speed Dating

[everywomanshero]

I'm sure this has been asked before, but I'm seriously thinking of doing 8 minute dating. Not very original, stealing 8 minute [insert money making gammit here], but does this have any potentiol to work. I hate dancing. I cannot get past my hatered of dancing. I have no wingman to face the cruel bars with. Does this seem reasonable?

I know the long term solution is to seek help for my social phobia from a qualified professional, but I have no insurance. The 35 bucks for speed dating is about the most I can afford.

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

Originally posted by everywomanshero
I know the long term solution is to seek help for my social phobia from a qualified professional, but I have no insurance. The 35 bucks for speed dating is about the most I can afford.

But what is the difference of you approaching and talking to women in lets say a coffe place or bookstore, than paying 35 bucks to talk to women? you get the same thing, you get to talk to women, but the first option is free.

I think speed dating seems like a good idea to break the ice and get you confortable talking to women. You are forced to talk to women since you are paying money for this and you are in this place just for talking to women. Now if only you can FORCE YOURSELF to talk to women rather than being forced to talk to them by joining a speed dating group, you would be set.

 

[duttylove]

dont know much about speed dating but from my initial thoughts, wouldnt only desperate woman who cant meet men in the real world or woman who have high demanding careers, workloads etc use this system?

you wouldnt want a desperate woman and you wouldnt want a woman who has no time for you.

to get over your feer of talking to a woman im not sure this is going to help concidering the woman you will be talking to are forced to listen to you because you have both paid money. i suggest you do the bootcamp and save your 35 bucks for a date

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by everywomanshero
I'm sure this has been asked before, but I'm seriously thinking of doing 8 minute dating. Not very original, stealing 8 minute [insert money making gammit here], but does this have any potentiol to work. I hate dancing. I cannot get past my hatered of dancing. I have no wingman to face the cruel bars with. Does this seem reasonable?

I know the long term solution is to seek help for my social phobia from a qualified professional, but I have no insurance. The 35 bucks for speed dating is about the most I can afford.

Start talking to girls outside the club.

Women are everywhere. Look around.

When you go out to wherever you go, try to look and feel your best. THe world is your pickup-joint.

As far as 8-minute dating, sure. Take a crack at it. But think of it this way...how much can you POSSIBLY learn about a person in 8 minutes??

If you struggle in the club, you're going to struggle in speed-dating. You may think, "Yeah, but I've got EIGHT WHOLE MINUTES to let my intellect and personality shine through in conversation!!"

The girls there see 20 potential suitors in one of those sessions. They're judging on looks and on how you make her feel (i.e. your energy level/confidence/fun-factor).

You can say anything you want to her...you can have all the same interests and hobbies, but if you're staring at the ground, playing nervously with your hands, and refusing to make eye contact, those things that will kill you in the club will kill you in a speed-date too.

Tell you what...learn to engage women at the club and in your day-to-day activities first, then hit the speed-dating scene. Consider it training.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by everywomanshero
I'm sure this has been asked before, but I'm seriously thinking of doing 8 minute dating. Not very original, stealing 8 minute [insert money making gammit here], but does this have any potentiol to work. I hate dancing. I cannot get past my hatered of dancing. I have no wingman to face the cruel bars with. Does this seem reasonable?

I know the long term solution is to seek help for my social phobia from a qualified professional, but I have no insurance. The 35 bucks for speed dating is about the most I can afford.

You need to work on your comfort levels in different situations. Face it, how often are you going to meet women in the perfect environment with the moon alignment just right? Work on being comfortable with yourself.

You may think that you are but if you were, you would mind the fact that you are a great dancer, now would you? The funny thing is that once you are truly secure with yourself, learning new things and feeling comfortable in less than perfect environments will become much easier.

 

[englishcrap]

Never had any success at Speed dates...although I got some matches I just felt that the whole speed dating thing was a way women who are socially inept could boost thier self esteem by being wanted..

I used the C & F thing about women have to use speed dating events to meet men and many took it offensive