wt_firefighter
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Has any one tried speed dating before. I never have but at the college I attend they have it. I was wondering if it was worth a shot or not.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Speed dating
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- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Before you get inundated with tons of "Nah, why pay when you can approach for free" type of standard advice by all the cats here who have never done a SD event, let me tell you what I've found out.
Basically, just like in every day situations, the tighter your game, specially "inner game", the better you will fare at speed dating, online dating, day game, blind dates, etc., with a little tweeking, off course.
Yes, just anything else, you won't know if it will be a worth while thing for you if you don't at least try it once, and learn from it.
Main Tip:
While you do need to stand out from everybody else, you must make a case as to "Why do the women here need to feel like they MUST meet up with me after tonight?". As they say in sales/marketing, you need to showcase your USP, your Unique Selling Proposition. You will have 3-8 mintues to present yourself in a way that every broad there will feel compelled to want to get to know you more.
What is it about you, or what you offer, that gives you a monopoly? What is it you offer that women CANNOT get anywhere else? When you can answer that question, you will find that your options start getting better, and you will start seeing better returns on your time invested.
Basically, just like in every day situations, the tighter your game, specially "inner game", the better you will fare at speed dating, online dating, day game, blind dates, etc., with a little tweeking, off course.
Yes, just anything else, you won't know if it will be a worth while thing for you if you don't at least try it once, and learn from it.
Main Tip:
While you do need to stand out from everybody else, you must make a case as to "Why do the women here need to feel like they MUST meet up with me after tonight?". As they say in sales/marketing, you need to showcase your USP, your Unique Selling Proposition. You will have 3-8 mintues to present yourself in a way that every broad there will feel compelled to want to get to know you more.
What is it about you, or what you offer, that gives you a monopoly? What is it you offer that women CANNOT get anywhere else? When you can answer that question, you will find that your options start getting better, and you will start seeing better returns on your time invested.
LOL...........not sure if that GENERIC ADVCE is what U were seeking.......I ACTUALLY WORKED AT A MAJOR SPEED DATING COMPANY for TWO YEARS.....and I sat in as a client ALL THE TIME..........best of boh worlds.
I got the insiders INTEL on all the lil tricks OF WHO GOT PICKED the most..........and why.
I put 'em all in a lil seret guide..................
TRULY EXCLUSIVE...............few DJs are successful at SD events.........cause traditional tactics are INEFFECTIVE.
........unless U know the secrets,
www.lulu.com/content/paperback-book/speed-dating(cliffs-notes)/634514
cut n paste that link
I got the insiders INTEL on all the lil tricks OF WHO GOT PICKED the most..........and why.
I put 'em all in a lil seret guide..................
TRULY EXCLUSIVE...............few DJs are successful at SD events.........cause traditional tactics are INEFFECTIVE.
........unless U know the secrets,
www.lulu.com/content/paperback-book/speed-dating(cliffs-notes)/634514
cut n paste that link
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Are you referring to my "generic advice" as an opportunity to plug your book? I don't see you posting any type of advice for him, beside, "Buy my book". I purchased your book, and I won't get into a pi$$ing constest about it, however, I did not for a minute think about or remembered your book when the subject of speed dating came up. I had forgoten that I had it.My generic advice, if implemented, will get him further not just on speed dating, but any kind of dating, than what you have posted on this thread so far.COD said:LOL...........not sure if that GENERIC ADVCE is what U were seeking.......I ACTUALLY WORKED AT A MAJOR SPEED DATING COMPANY for TWO YEARS.....and I sat in as a client ALL THE TIME..........best of boh worlds.
I got the insiders INTEL on all the lil tricks OF WHO GOT PICKED the most..........and why.
I put 'em all in a lil seret guide..................
TRULY EXCLUSIVE...............few DJs are successful at SD events.........cause traditional tactics are INEFFECTIVE.
........unless U know the secrets,
www.lulu.com/content/paperback-book/speed-dating(cliffs-notes)/634514
cut n paste that link
From what I can remember, your advice will only work if the reader/speed dater has descent "inner game" already, to pull off the advice. You give a chump those tactics, he will not know what to do with it most of them. Just to be fair, I will give it a second read.
Since you are so bold to plug your book at the ridicule of others, instead of actually offering a few "intro tips" for the guy, without having to buy and read your booklet, I will give it a second read, and post a review, good, bad, or indifferent. I actually found it somewhat helpful for me, at my skill level, yet my first thought was that a lot of readers would probably need a "remedial course" to pull a lot of that stuff off. Fair enough?
hey no disrespect.........well some advice..........U can preview MY FIRST BOOK...........entitled seed dating guide---THE cliff notes edition.
but okay,,,,,,,,,,something specific..........
1) GET THERE EARLY...........you only get 3-8 minutes to talk with each girl, so by getting there early you get to scope out the clientelle and chat them up at the bar.........thus INCREASING YOUR time exposure and establishing a familiar face.
2) NAME TAGS-screw the name tag they give you MAKE YOUR OWN with bold print, highlight stars, or something funny like " I AM DA ONE" Purpose for this is simple...........PEACOCK.......subtle. At the end of the event women forget who was who..........BUT THEY ALL RECALL YOUR NAME TAG.........trust me this works.
3)CIRCLE YOUR CHOICES-sounds simple but soooooo many people put yes/no/maybe, then scribble that out, change their minds, etc........JUST CIRCLE THE ONES U WANT A DATE WITH.........why write NO and waste talk time. Also makes it easier for the match maker to read your selections.
4) A MATCH DOES NOT EQUAL A DATE-this is the part a TON of people forget. Just cause U got a match does not always mean a date will follow........so what does..........ah good question...........answer........YOUR INITIAL EMAIL. YUP, HOW U ENTICE THEM in your contact email will solidify your date.
NOW I could list all the mistakes people make at events or I could tell you which topics to avoid or the dissadvantages of choosing everyone,etc.....
but its all in the guide............not a plug just too much info and it really is the BENCHMARK on speed dating, I know cause I read all the books.
but okay,,,,,,,,,,something specific..........
1) GET THERE EARLY...........you only get 3-8 minutes to talk with each girl, so by getting there early you get to scope out the clientelle and chat them up at the bar.........thus INCREASING YOUR time exposure and establishing a familiar face.
2) NAME TAGS-screw the name tag they give you MAKE YOUR OWN with bold print, highlight stars, or something funny like " I AM DA ONE" Purpose for this is simple...........PEACOCK.......subtle. At the end of the event women forget who was who..........BUT THEY ALL RECALL YOUR NAME TAG.........trust me this works.
3)CIRCLE YOUR CHOICES-sounds simple but soooooo many people put yes/no/maybe, then scribble that out, change their minds, etc........JUST CIRCLE THE ONES U WANT A DATE WITH.........why write NO and waste talk time. Also makes it easier for the match maker to read your selections.
4) A MATCH DOES NOT EQUAL A DATE-this is the part a TON of people forget. Just cause U got a match does not always mean a date will follow........so what does..........ah good question...........answer........YOUR INITIAL EMAIL. YUP, HOW U ENTICE THEM in your contact email will solidify your date.
NOW I could list all the mistakes people make at events or I could tell you which topics to avoid or the dissadvantages of choosing everyone,etc.....
but its all in the guide............not a plug just too much info and it really is the BENCHMARK on speed dating, I know cause I read all the books.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
no offence to anyone............i just hate generic advice..........i am an avid fan of JUST GIMME THE CHEAT CODES FOR SUCCESS......thats just how I roll.
We are all on the same team, here to help each other........we aint all born super models and why should they have all the fun.
just hate it when guys wing it...........online, speed dating events, clubs.......KINOWLEDGE IS POWER!!!!!!!!
NUFF SAID.............
We are all on the same team, here to help each other........we aint all born super models and why should they have all the fun.
just hate it when guys wing it...........online, speed dating events, clubs.......KINOWLEDGE IS POWER!!!!!!!!
NUFF SAID.............
kingy
Senior Don Juan
you will never get high-self esteem 8s 9s or 10s
6s and 7s yes, older women yes, low self esteem girls yes.
depends what you are looking for, most hot girls have way too many options as it is anyway.
6s and 7s yes, older women yes, low self esteem girls yes.
depends what you are looking for, most hot girls have way too many options as it is anyway.