"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Speed Dating - Your Thoughts ??

englishcrap

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Has anyone attended speed dates ?. What are your thoughts ?

Having read an article in Mens Health a couple of months back. The article claims that alot of the women who attended these events. Were those who wanted to boost thier self esteem and wanted to feel wanted.

A friend of mine attended one last month. He got 4 matches but never got any replies via email from any of them. From what he tells me these were real hotties.

There are few events happening in London which I plan to check out shortly.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Alpine

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I've not been to one but I suspect it's like when women go to see the Chippendales in a gaggle.

It's just a laugh to them. And it's a certain type, they want compliments, and if you're REALLY lucky you might get her approval, oh joy.

How long do you get 5mins? yeah that's going to work isn't it.

Just wish I'd come up with this money spinner.

I might utilse it. You get 20 goes in an evening to test your body language and initial game with a captive audience, under the same conditions.

Treat them like guinea pigs.
 

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Alpine is right is mostly groups of females out to have a laugh and be validated.
I went to one in London there were about 15 men and about 8 women. I was the youngest one there and it was quite intimidating as many of the women were about 40! It was suppost to be 23-35 but they did not check your age.
I used it as a practice and to try to break out of my comfort zone and actually talk to women. But I still am stuggling on the boot camp go figure!

Which one were you going to try?

Good luck

Deepraj
 

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Two can play at that game. We ought to get together and go on one, out number them and play C&F all night. Then make sure you give NONE of them ticks.

On the way out as you go past them turn to each other and say

' Well, what a waste of time that was, wonder where all the descent women are:D '
 

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I went to a speed dating event and afterwards. It seemed many of them came together in groups then afterwards compared notes.

On the lighter side, a friend of a friend met his wife doing speed dating.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Alpine I agee, I think all us aspiring British DJ's should get together one evening and do some C & F sh*t at one of these events and see what comes of it :D .

Take the womans game play away and see how insecure they start acting :D
 

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Isn't someone supposed to be organising some sort of UK get together?

Just don't make it too close to where I live:D
 

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As us brits say "Dont piss in your own backyard " :D
Originally posted by Alpine
Isn't someone supposed to be organising some sort of UK get together?

Just don't make it too close to where I live:D
 

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I see speed dating as being pointless. You are meeting with about 6-8 women all of whom are trying to determine in less then 2 minutes if they want to pursue a relationship with you. The odds are that about half of them will be ugly or not your type and the other half may not be even intrested in you. The variety that is presented to you is very small.

The way I see it, it is a numbers game and your odds increases with more women. Therefore going out to clubs where there are hundreds of women or even Internet Personals have a much higher odds ratio then speed dating.

Eight vs three hundred, where will you go??!!
 

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Dont waste your time/$$$ on this speed dating. I went to one in orange county calif & there were some hotties. Its just a fun nite out for the ladies. Most of them have no intention of meeting a dude. They just want an ego boost. Spend the $$ on a nice lap dance.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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hahaha anyone read tuckermax.com ?

He talked about going to one of those.
 
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