Speed dating, women who ignore=red flag?

[alx]

Just went speed dating for the first time. Not as hard as I thought it would be. My only complaint is the women who won't allow an approach. There was a bar for mingling as well as speed dating tables. In the bar areas I asked two ladies at a table to sit down and they said sure and we talked, I liked them but clearly they were not serious about finding a man. Then later at the same table a different pair of ladies, they said no don't sit here we came here for a private chat... You came speed dating to chat to your mate in private? Liar.

Then there's the ladies who you look at and it wipes the smile right off their face, they turn to a corpse right in front of you, then turn away. It didn't upset me but I'd be lying if I said it made me feel good about myself. I don't like it. How hard is it to be polite? I talked to some nice ladies who I would never bang. Obviously wouldn't waste the whole evening on them but why would I mug them off? Why would I try and make her feel small? It doesn't help either of us.

It's the same with the men, some of them like me would chat to each other. Showing that we can talk to anyone. Other guys walk around giving each other the evils.

So what do you think of ladies who do this? Are they the female equivalent of the pervy guy who walks around with a big hard on for the 10s and ignores everyone else? I have a feeling these are nightmare women who would destroy my life if I ever was unlucky enough to get with them. For me ignoring people is a huge red flag showing a lack of social awareness and self awareness. Am I right?

 

[Who Dares Win]

We probably would do the same if not socialized to be nice and polite.

Some people behave cause of empathy while others cause of education, they lack empathy and education at the same time.

 

[alx]

I take it as a courtesy, it's the quickest way to know not to waste my time on them. But at the same time you have to have balls of steel not to take any knocks to your confidence when people are looking at you in disgust. To be honest I don't want them to pretend to be nice and chat to me, I just want to know I'm not the only man who gets these looks. The look of "I just evaluated your appearance and it was lacking, therefore you will never get to speak to me".

 

[sazc]

Just went speed dating for the first time. Not as hard as I thought it would be. My only complaint is the women who won't allow an approach. There was a bar for mingling as well as speed dating tables. In the bar areas I asked two ladies at a table to sit down and they said sure and we talked, I liked them but clearly they were not serious about finding a man. Then later at the same table a different pair of ladies, they said no don't sit here we came here for a private chat... You came speed dating to chat to your mate in private? Liar.

Then there's the ladies who you look at and it wipes the smile right off their face, they turn to a corpse right in front of you, then turn away. It didn't upset me but I'd be lying if I said it made me feel good about myself. I don't like it. How hard is it to be polite? I talked to some nice ladies who I would never bang. Obviously wouldn't waste the whole evening on them but why would I mug them off? Why would I try and make her feel small? It doesn't help either of us.

It's the same with the men, some of them like me would chat to each other. Showing that we can talk to anyone. Other guys walk around giving each other the evils.

So what do you think of ladies who do this? Are they the female equivalent of the pervy guy who walks around with a big hard on for the 10s and ignores everyone else? I have a feeling these are nightmare women who would destroy my life if I ever was unlucky enough to get with them. For me ignoring people is a huge red flag showing a lack of social awareness and self awareness. Am I right?

In some cases, when we women are 'polite' even when we are not interested, a creeper attaches himself (the ones who mistake a cordial smile and hello for interest, and dont seem to pick up on social cues that we're not interested) to us and we have to figure out how to shake him while still being polite.

It can happen for any reason. If the chick hasnt met you, theres no way you should take it peronally. Just be glad that you know up front that a chick isnt interested and can move on and not waste time.