If you venture out to one of these speed dating events traditional tactics are ineffective due to the controlled enviroment. Ineffective tactics include (bringing a wingman, artificial time constraint, vibing, initiating the first move, using an opener/ice breaker, building rapport,forming anchors,active diss-interest principle,asserting personal authority, 3 minute email extraction,etc)
Speed dating has 3 essential major flaws---
1) it's superficial and tends to stereotype first impressions, which are often shallow to begin with. It’s a known fact, that good-looking people who attend speed-dating events have a huge edge over the average person. They get the most matches compared to an average Joe, based summarily upon their looks. You are exposed to numerous strangers for only a few minutes. Do you really think the plain Jane is going to stand up to the super hottie with the killer bod and extroverted personality.
2)Speed Dating tends to put timid subjects at a disadvantage. Introverts tend to be quiet, low-key, deliberate, and disengaged from the social world. Thus, one who is introverted is more likely to spend time alone or in contemplation, as these activities are rewarding. They may avoid social situations entirely, not because of SHYNESS but because they choose to. * we are referring to the females who are shy guys!!!!!
3)TIME CONSTRAINT-there is no time interval in between the next round. Right after your time is up (signaled by a bell), you IMMEDIETLY must go to the next table. You are forced to make a YES/NO decision right there. This quick decision thingy is NOT always the correct path to follow, especially when you're on the fence about someone. You don’t want to circle someone until you see ALL the prospects, so a lot of people leave their sheets blank 'til the end. Trying to remember who you wanted a date with after 12-20 people gets confusing. The time frame is very short does not allow shy people the luxury of getting comfortable. A lot of people are not good at making quick decisions and are forced to rely on the presentation at hand to make their decision. Meaning if you look hot you're more likely to get a match than someone who can make her laugh in 3 minutes. 1Speed dating is all about first impressions, which is due to the limited amount of time you have to engage someone. Some people are not small talk skilled and they like to take their time. ****y & funny NEG/HIT may sound repetitive after 20 rounds and women compare notes.
Speed dating has 3 essential major flaws---
1) it's superficial and tends to stereotype first impressions, which are often shallow to begin with. It’s a known fact, that good-looking people who attend speed-dating events have a huge edge over the average person. They get the most matches compared to an average Joe, based summarily upon their looks. You are exposed to numerous strangers for only a few minutes. Do you really think the plain Jane is going to stand up to the super hottie with the killer bod and extroverted personality.
2)Speed Dating tends to put timid subjects at a disadvantage. Introverts tend to be quiet, low-key, deliberate, and disengaged from the social world. Thus, one who is introverted is more likely to spend time alone or in contemplation, as these activities are rewarding. They may avoid social situations entirely, not because of SHYNESS but because they choose to. * we are referring to the females who are shy guys!!!!!
3)TIME CONSTRAINT-there is no time interval in between the next round. Right after your time is up (signaled by a bell), you IMMEDIETLY must go to the next table. You are forced to make a YES/NO decision right there. This quick decision thingy is NOT always the correct path to follow, especially when you're on the fence about someone. You don’t want to circle someone until you see ALL the prospects, so a lot of people leave their sheets blank 'til the end. Trying to remember who you wanted a date with after 12-20 people gets confusing. The time frame is very short does not allow shy people the luxury of getting comfortable. A lot of people are not good at making quick decisions and are forced to rely on the presentation at hand to make their decision. Meaning if you look hot you're more likely to get a match than someone who can make her laugh in 3 minutes. 1Speed dating is all about first impressions, which is due to the limited amount of time you have to engage someone. Some people are not small talk skilled and they like to take their time. ****y & funny NEG/HIT may sound repetitive after 20 rounds and women compare notes.
