Yes, yes, I know the disadvantages of speed dating. It's desperate (for both sexes), the woman has the upper hand, the guy is pretty much operating in a female's reality/frame right off the bat, etc. etc. but my admin at work (she is probably an extra few pounds HB6 who I have zero interest in) wants to go and wants to drag me along. I am always up for crap like this.
I've been to 2 speed dating events before: First one I was a novice and played it like all the other saps. Asked and answered the same boring questions over and over with a little humor peppered in, "where do you live?" "what do you do?" "how many kids?" etc. Ding! 7 minutes is up and I am off to the next table.
Second time was a few years later and more seasoned with tons of first dates under my belt and lots of success with average looking women. I approached the second time differently and steered the conversation away from the boring crap and figured if I treat like a first date I would stand out. Almost like I am performing. Turns out these women have the personality of wet sponges, are all serious, and all they wanted to know were the "dating" vitals. I wasn't going down that road like these other saps.
I want to go again, not out of desperation, but to tweak the process and for a little fun. I don't want to do the boring BS and blend in and I don't want to put on a show for them either sort of like the second time.
What are some good tactics to bring the girl into my reality and frame within 7 minutes? Aside from "meet me behind the dumpster when this is over."
I am 47. The age range is usually anywhere from 35 to 52 depending on what night I go. Just wondering if there is a fun, different approach to keep myself engaged and entertained. As I said above, I am aware this is a crap way to meet anyone with any quality. It is really just online dating on crack. And most of these people are damaged goods if they are expecting anything out of speed dating. (I also have begun spinning plates and not looking for anything exclusive so I know most of these broads are looking to entrap some sucker. And if there happens to be like 2 hot ones who show, they came together and have no intention of matching with anyone. They are there for a "fun night out" and to get their ego stroked a bit.)
I've been to 2 speed dating events before: First one I was a novice and played it like all the other saps. Asked and answered the same boring questions over and over with a little humor peppered in, "where do you live?" "what do you do?" "how many kids?" etc. Ding! 7 minutes is up and I am off to the next table.
Second time was a few years later and more seasoned with tons of first dates under my belt and lots of success with average looking women. I approached the second time differently and steered the conversation away from the boring crap and figured if I treat like a first date I would stand out. Almost like I am performing. Turns out these women have the personality of wet sponges, are all serious, and all they wanted to know were the "dating" vitals. I wasn't going down that road like these other saps.
I want to go again, not out of desperation, but to tweak the process and for a little fun. I don't want to do the boring BS and blend in and I don't want to put on a show for them either sort of like the second time.
What are some good tactics to bring the girl into my reality and frame within 7 minutes? Aside from "meet me behind the dumpster when this is over."
I am 47. The age range is usually anywhere from 35 to 52 depending on what night I go. Just wondering if there is a fun, different approach to keep myself engaged and entertained. As I said above, I am aware this is a crap way to meet anyone with any quality. It is really just online dating on crack. And most of these people are damaged goods if they are expecting anything out of speed dating. (I also have begun spinning plates and not looking for anything exclusive so I know most of these broads are looking to entrap some sucker. And if there happens to be like 2 hot ones who show, they came together and have no intention of matching with anyone. They are there for a "fun night out" and to get their ego stroked a bit.)