speed dating advice

[carryout kid]

i just got out of a 6 and a half year relationship.

so i'm a bit out of the game. actually, i've been out of the game so long, i don't think i remember what the game is.

anyway, i signed up for speed dating and i'm just looking for some general advice.

i feel pretty confident in my conversation skills and everything, but i want to differentiate myself from the other guys. i assume everyone's going to ask "what do you do for a living, where are you from, what do you do for fun?" that's basically your 4 minute conversation right there. any ideas for alternative questions that still stay pretty vague and friendly? it's a fine line between inquisitive and creepy.

thanks for the help.

ck

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

You could always suggest that you play the game that they do at the end of the show "Inside the Actors Guild." Each of you should be able to get through a handful of those questions in a matter of minutes.

 

[carryout kid]

that's all the advice i get?

no worries, it'll go well anyway.

oh well, it starts in a couple hours, i'll let you know how it goes.

ck

 

[themanwithnoname]

no need to differentiate when a woman is truly interested in you.

 

[Alpine]

Advice 1 Don't bother going.

Advice 2.

Get values by asking them what's important to them about xyz.

Get them to relive past peak experiences and tell her about similar experiences you have had.

Give her CLUES that you are safe, a risk taker, that dominance is your middle name, that you have more than enough money and that you are here for a laugh because back home they are queueing up.

Remember half these things can be suggested in the way you use your body.

Just an idea.

 

[Tyrone Biggums]

If you decide to go, don't expect anything. The conversation can flow like she's your best friend but that doesn't mean she is interested. It's also a numbers game (like anything else). You shouldn't have to pay to get a date. I would try volunteering.

 

[Chrispy]

I didn't go do speed dating, but I did go to a single's dating party for singles. Dumbest thing ever. By logic, there are supposed to be single available women looking for someone. But it's just a way for bars to make money and for dating organizers to charge a cover!!

Go or don't go, it is still a worthwhile experience. Just don't expect anything to happen. And just have fun!

 

[carryout kid]

well, yeah, everything that was said was pretty much true.

i had 6 minutes each with 13 girls. from scanning over the competition, i wasn't really worried. i'm not the most handsome guy you'll ever meet, but i thought i was probably one of the top 4-5 guys, easy. and as far as personality/conversation goes i have no doubts in myself. so i had good confidence going in.

as for the girls, the crowd wasn't horrible. a couple chubby ones, none disgusting. i was bracing for worse. anyway, i breezed through all the "conversations" and tried to get more out of them than they got out of me. some girls were easier to do this with than others. kept good eye contact, leaned in, acted interested, all that... they all went really well in my mind. and with the four best looking girls i really focused in. on the ugly ones, i was sort of practicing and thinking about the hotter girls.

there was one super-hot girl. i'm not in the practice of ranking girls by number, but in my book she was an easy 9.5. and i'm really picky. i wondered why she was even there. anyway, i was hitting all cylinders in that round. i seriously killed it. i thought i was going to pull the upset on that one.

so i end up putting "match" for 4 out of 13. "friend" for 8, and nothing for one really annoying girl. after the thing i stuck around to watch my pacers get bounced, and that annoying girl tried to chat me up. it took a good 20 minutes of staring over her shoulder at the game to get her off me.

the next day i got my email from speed dating and i received one "match" and three "friends." the other three i had for match then cancel out, so i figure i had 7 matches that i didn't reciprocate. at least that's how i see it. i don't see why anyone wouldn't mark me for "friend."

so the hot girl did not match up with me. i should have figured. but it was a valiant effort, and a moral victory. too bad moral victories don't lead to sex. but i did get the second best-looking girl. i'm calling her tonight to set something up. oh, and this morning one of the "friend" girls wrote me email.

so all in all, i guess it was good practice at very short conversations. it's not cheap though, and it's not really worth it unless, like me, you've been out of the game for a long time and just need a jumpstart. and you can't go in with high expectations. i thought i played it extremely well, but like i said, witht he girls i was interested in i was only 1 of 4. but it's probably good to get the proverbial ball rolling. and who's to say what's going to happen with my one match?

 

[al77]

Originally posted by carryout kid
well, yeah, everything that was said was pretty much true.

i had 6 minutes each with 13 girls. from scanning over the competition, i wasn't really worried. i'm not the most handsome guy you'll ever meet, but i thought i was probably one of the top 4-5 guys, easy. and as far as personality/conversation goes i have no doubts in myself. so i had good confidence going in.

I think it is good for the purpose.

What kind of conversation did you typically have? I am sure you were tempted to say same things to many of them...
Can you elaborate a bit on the conversational part?

And how much was it exactly, around $30-40? What was the schedule - any warm ups before and\or after?

 

[Alpine]

Talk about easy money. I'm gonna set up a speed dating company, but I'll get first dibs on the hotties.

Costs -Advertising, venue costs and voting cards. - fees = huge profit.


Sell add ons afterwards like chocolate for the girls and 'romatic gifts' for the blokes to impress his favourite date. Mugs!