“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Speech Impediment

Colin O'Brien

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Anybody have a speech impediment here? How do you deal with it in terms of DJing?

I have one.. I tend to talk rather fast unless I focus, and its hard for me to start a sentence with something I *know* is good/funny without stuttering or pausing... unless I don't focus and forget what I'm going (IE have it come natural). Its also hard to start sentences if I have a line in my head already. Basically I have to stop thinking to start, then focus heavily to slow down. Its a *****. Fortunately it's not as bad as it was when I was younger (like pre-13.. I pretty much sounded like a meth addict tour guide eating a peanut butter sandwich). I do my best to focus but its tough.. I'm getting there though. Anyone else?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Evolution

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Talk loud, and slow down.

Don't try to fit everything in a sentence.

You can split up it up.

Instead of saying.

"So one of my girl friends has a ....."

Say

"So one of my girl friends.....she has a boyfriend...and"

Throw in pauses, and use your hands when you do.
 

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You're trying a short term solution to a long term problem. Don't fix the symptom, fix the problem.

My suggestion is to not only calm down your rapid-fire thinking but calm down your entire vehicle. Start from the inside out. There are a myriad of yogic and meditative practices which will guide you to slowing down and enjoying your moment.

One of the fundamentals, which I use even sitting here typing this, is controlling your breathing. This is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Concentrate on each breath. On the inhale slow it to a 2 second count then hold it for a second then exhale for 2 seconds. It will take some getting used to but after a while you'll have trained yourself to be calm as a spring rain.
 

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i agree with Evolution...when youi talk, throw in pauses every 3 or 4 words..i kinda have the same problem..it helps to visualize the pauses every several words as you speak. generally calm laid back type ppl talk with pauses ive noticed
 
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