"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Speech Impediment

Colin O'Brien

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Anybody have a speech impediment here? How do you deal with it in terms of DJing?

I have one.. I tend to talk rather fast unless I focus, and its hard for me to start a sentence with something I *know* is good/funny without stuttering or pausing... unless I don't focus and forget what I'm going (IE have it come natural). Its also hard to start sentences if I have a line in my head already. Basically I have to stop thinking to start, then focus heavily to slow down. Its a *****. Fortunately it's not as bad as it was when I was younger (like pre-13.. I pretty much sounded like a meth addict tour guide eating a peanut butter sandwich). I do my best to focus but its tough.. I'm getting there though. Anyone else?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Evolution

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Talk loud, and slow down.

Don't try to fit everything in a sentence.

You can split up it up.

Instead of saying.

"So one of my girl friends has a ....."

Say

"So one of my girl friends.....she has a boyfriend...and"

Throw in pauses, and use your hands when you do.
 

KarmaSutra

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You're trying a short term solution to a long term problem. Don't fix the symptom, fix the problem.

My suggestion is to not only calm down your rapid-fire thinking but calm down your entire vehicle. Start from the inside out. There are a myriad of yogic and meditative practices which will guide you to slowing down and enjoying your moment.

One of the fundamentals, which I use even sitting here typing this, is controlling your breathing. This is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Concentrate on each breath. On the inhale slow it to a 2 second count then hold it for a second then exhale for 2 seconds. It will take some getting used to but after a while you'll have trained yourself to be calm as a spring rain.
 

Thatfeel21

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i agree with Evolution...when youi talk, throw in pauses every 3 or 4 words..i kinda have the same problem..it helps to visualize the pauses every several words as you speak. generally calm laid back type ppl talk with pauses ive noticed
 
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