speaking to past gfs to analyse yourself

[Heretolearn]

Who has done this?

I have and some common themes:

I have huge standards. All my past gfs have said they felt so pressured to be perfect due to my standards.

That I am very moody and hard to deal with sometimes. Mr Perfect to mr BITE YOUR HEAD OFF.

That I am a very positive person

That they all respect me as a person.

The physical was the best part

That I am a great friend but not a good bf

They loved me and talked about marriage

I am obviously with none of them now. Some I have broken up with some I have not. (really 3 LTR mainly of 3 yrs, 2 yrs and 8 months)

Can you take anything from this process? What are your thoughts about my recurring themes and how can I benefit from knowing them? How can I improve myself from them?

 

[( . )( . )]

I personally wouldnt be turning to past shags for a self evaluation. For starters theyre chicks which means by default even if they could lay it out logically for a way for you to self improve (which they cant) they would probably get it ass backwards and tell you to lose the traits that got them wet in the first place.

Its obvious b!tches dont even know what they want for themselves being creatures of emotion so to risk such an important thing as becoming a better man is pure lunacy.

And honestly why give a sh!t what your ex's would say anyway?

 

[STR8UP]

Yea, and maybe you should make a movie about it!

Oh, wait, someone beat you to it. It's called High Fidelity.

 

[MightyMate]

Fuq the ex.

 

[flexion_]

Don't ask a women for relationship advice.

 

[Golden Arms]

why the hell are you trying to "analyse yourself" ?????

 

[Heretolearn]

I analyse myself because I want to get the most out of this life!

A very good point though!

excellent points on not trusting women's judgements. Absolutely correct.

 

[Golden Arms]

Originally posted by yendor28
I analyse myself because I want to get the most out of this life!

A very good point though!

excellent points on not trusting women's judgements. Absolutely correct.

You get the most out of your life but living and moving forward, not self-analysis.

Self-analysis inevitably leads to self-consciousness

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Originally posted by flexion_
Don't ask a women for relationship advice.

This should be a proverb.


Never root through the garbage once it's been dragged to the curb.

 

[DoubleA]

HA!

That was good!

yendor28,

I think you're ready to grow up and stop fooling yourself.

I've done the same thing and I realized it was a movie I've seen before. Tired of the same old ending I'm ready go about it differently; however, I'm not so desperate that I'll take anything.

Concentrate on the areas you need to work on if it's really that important you. I mean at 28 you still can learn alot about yourself. I'm 31 and I'm still maturing.

- The R