Speaking to girls when you're in a LTR

[the pokemaster]

Guys the past few years I've been in this LTR has really changed the way I view myself and stuff. Without going too deep I realised that:

1) I valued my self-worth on how many girls were interested in me at a given time
2) I probably adopted this insecurity from my dad who was also a player and always used to brag about his sexual encounters as I was growing up
3) Getting chicks was my main hobby
4) Despite knowing this I still love/yearn for sexual attention from women

So now I've come to realise all this stuff I decided to change! I don't wanna be a loser chasing girls all the time due to a lack of success in other departments in my life. Especially now i'm in a LTR and I really care about this girl and wanna treat her right.

It's just weird because I find it really hard to talk to girls without throwing in some don juan skills! It's almost built into my automatic interaction with women now, especially HB8s and above. For example, loads of subtle kino, ****y funny flirtation, inappropriate sexual conversation. its just how I talk to hot women :/

So recently I've noticed that in response to this problem I've kinda become a social retard and become the complete opposite to the ***** magnet I was before this LTR. Now when I'm talking to a hot girl, I kinda stay quiet and make small talk and I dunno I just feel like a loser. And its weird because i thought that because I have a gf chicks would be banging down my door to get at me. But its like this relationship has just kinda killed that part of me that made me attractive to girls.

And I know some of you amateurs are probably wondering why the hell I care about sexual attention from the opposite sex if im happy in my relationship. I TELL YOU WHY.

I've also come to realise that getting sexual attention from hot chicks gives you an enormous amount of leverage in your relationship. Without tryna sound manipulative or anything I know my gf values me more when she knows her friends also want the d!ck. END OF.

So how do I get back to that ALPHA-state without being or coming across like a sleaze that would cheat on his gf?

How do you long termers speak to women? How do you remain a don juan after years of one-pVssy-itis?

 

[Randomer]

Just tone down the inappropriate sexual convo and less touching. Still, don't be afraid to be your normal self. As long as you're not actively trying to **** these chicks, that's what should come across. If not... You'd better make it come across that way! Heh... I'd also say that every girl has different limits. Isn't that why we test them? :rockon:

 

[rhythmic]

You're totally within your rights to show women a good time, get them excited about seeing you and have them interested in you. Just display high value and ensure they have a good time when they're around you.

 

[Uncharted]

My rule is that if I'm in a committed relationship I never get together with a woman one-on-one. Groups are fine, parties are fine. I don't hook up (kiss, fvck, bj, etc) obviously either. Flirting is OK, touching (kino, not overly sexual). Basically, if your girlfriend was in the room would you act the same way in front of her?

I make it known to my girlfriends that I expect the same rule to apply to them.