Speaking at an event where my EX will be

[Atom Smasher]

See my "limbo" post #7 in this thread:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=201659

The "male girlfriend" part doesn't appply, but the "living in limbo" part might.

 

[j0504s]

Cordoncorfon I rly appreciste u. I am a slave to this and it is not good I know this and it sucks.idj wat to do??? Im trying. But it seems gto not be woeking that well...I have developed ine itus I guess. In the past since my first heartbresk at 18 I eas a rock. I dumped every chick that caused any drama. Iet thus chick in and it was the worst idea ever. I feel that I was tricked. Iam verygood with pickingup women I used to have multtiple women etc etc. Ithought I would "retire" as I thought I had found the one. I was dead wrng. And now remmeber yi through wmen tocurve so often....I am lost...iam lil better but not near where ishould b. I can turn my alpha self on wenever but I cant be old self pre the relationship ifeep betrayed....idk watto do I am a slave. I hav luckily not doneanything dumb yet...sry for the typos im online atstore on my phone..this Is my cryfor help....I ts 2 months since break up 32 days of n.c. minus sering hrr at event when she came over to me to say ur not say congrats and then asked for a hug

 

[MikeOck]

Everyone has been there, if they haven't yet they will be eventually. It sucks, but it is a part of life.

One important thing to remember is to never fully believe that you've found "the one", not just because it is a false concept and there is no such thing as "the one", but also because when you let yourself believe that, you start to slip on your game, which never really ends even if you've been married for 20 years. The good news is that there are literally thousands, maybe millions of women who will fit you as well or better than the last.

Now is the time to move on. Start by focusing on other things: hobbies, friends, family, exercising, meeting new women, etc. I'm sure you know the drill and have heard it all before but it doesn't help until you accept it and put it into action. It takes time to move on, so don't get mad at yourself when it doesn't happen overnight, or next week. One day you'll wake up and realize how much better off you are without this woman in your life, perhaps hard to imagine now but it will happen.

Forgive yourself for trusting her and forgive her for letting you down. Accept that she is gone and it is for the best. Accept that one day you will find a better woman than your ex and you'll look back and realize that the old had to end for the new, better to have a chance.

 

[cordoncordon]

Everyone has been there, if they haven't yet they will be eventually. It sucks, but it is a part of life.

One important thing to remember is to never fully believe that you've found "the one", not just because it is a false concept and there is no such thing as "the one", but also because when you let yourself believe that, you start to slip on your game, which never really ends even if you've been married for 20 years. The good news is that there are literally thousands, maybe millions of women who will fit you as well or better than the last.

Now is the time to move on. Start by focusing on other things: hobbies, friends, family, exercising, meeting new women, etc. I'm sure you know the drill and have heard it all before but it doesn't help until you accept it and put it into action. It takes time to move on, so don't get mad at yourself when it doesn't happen overnight, or next week. One day you'll wake up and realize how much better off you are without this woman in your life, perhaps hard to imagine now but it will happen.

For now, forgive yourself for trusting her and forgive her for letting you down. Accept that she is gone and it is for the best. Accept that one day you will find a better woman than your ex and you'll look back and realize that the old had to end for the new, better to have a chance.

Really could not have said it any better than this. OP I can tell from when we have talked and via texting that you are a sharp guy. You have a lot going for you. Just know that what you are going through is something that we have all experienced. Do not feel alone in this. But it is far from the end of the world. And I can absolutely promise you that not to long from now, when you are happy and have moved on and with someone 100x better, that you are just going to shake your head and laugh at how sad you got over all of this.

 

[j0504s]

Everyone has been there, if they haven't yet they will be eventually. It sucks, but it is a part of life.

One important thing to remember is to never fully believe that you've found "the one", not just because it is a false concept and there is no such thing as "the one", but also because when you let yourself believe that, you start to slip on your game, which never really ends even if you've been married for 20 years. The good news is that there are literally thousands, maybe millions of women who will fit you as well or better than the last.

Now is the time to move on. Start by focusing on other things: hobbies, friends, family, exercising, meeting new women, etc. I'm sure you know the drill and have heard it all before but it doesn't help until you accept it and put it into action. It takes time to move on, so don't get mad at yourself when it doesn't happen overnight, or next week. One day you'll wake up and realize how much better off you are without this woman in your life, perhaps hard to imagine now but it will happen.

Forgive yourself for trusting her and forgive her for letting you down. Accept that she is gone and it is for the best. Accept that one day you will find a better woman than your ex and you'll look back and realize that the old had to end for the new, better to have a chance.

This pretty much hit the nail on the head as to what needs to be done...I have begun doing all these things to an extent and I have deff. progressed...but as one person put it earlier I pay her rent in my head with emotional currency...my forever lastin wound which was opened by my first heart break, has re-opened...I realize now that it really doesnt fully heal, yet only scabs over...I need to take the step of forgiving myself fully. I know that I am better then her, more sane, smarter, more successful. I also know I am all of these plus better lookign then the guy she is dating now plus my social status is far beyond his. ( every friend chose me over her in the breakup...again not that this matters) This is what is killing me the most...that she clearly down graded...but I know this is far from my primary concern...but some how still bothers me...I hate that im slave to what could have been or should have been...consuming my thoughts...I truly thought after 2 months I would have made far more progress...I can only blame myself for living in thoughts of her instead of taking the action needed to MOVE ON. When it comes down to it thinking back I didnt want to move on, but now I do i'm sick of feeling this way...I am good lookin with great "game" and succesful (for being 25). I work hard I deserve the best...I know this...I dont deserve to feel ****ty...I owe to myself to become even better then the man I was pre the relationship...women competing for me. It was not fair what she put me through post break-up. shes a sick puppy for that ****...as we all knew already...I need to accept ill never have the answers im looking for and thats fine...time to find the true acceptence...acceptence is the answer to all my problems today....

On to new begginings this has to be it do it or misery...

 

[j0504s]

Foook ta first appoach since the break up.....number closed an hb8-8.5. Foook ya still got it!!!!! SPIN EM BABY

 

[Sonny Knight]

This pretty much hit the nail on the head as to what needs to be done...I have begun doing all these things to an extent and I have deff. progressed...but as one person put it earlier I pay her rent in my head with emotional currency...my forever lastin wound which was opened by my first heart break, has re-opened...I realize now that it really doesnt fully heal, yet only scabs over...I need to take the step of forgiving myself fully. I know that I am better then her, more sane, smarter, more successful. I also know I am all of these plus better lookign then the guy she is dating now plus my social status is far beyond his. ( every friend chose me over her in the breakup...again not that this matters) This is what is killing me the most...that she clearly down graded...but I know this is far from my primary concern...but some how still bothers me...I hate that im slave to what could have been or should have been...consuming my thoughts...I truly thought after 2 months I would have made far more progress...I can only blame myself for living in thoughts of her instead of taking the action needed to MOVE ON. When it comes down to it thinking back I didnt want to move on, but now I do i'm sick of feeling this way...I am good lookin with great "game" and succesful (for being 25). I work hard I deserve the best...I know this...I dont deserve to feel ****ty...I owe to myself to become even better then the man I was pre the relationship...women competing for me. It was not fair what she put me through post break-up. shes a sick puppy for that ****...as we all knew already...I need to accept ill never have the answers im looking for and thats fine...time to find the true acceptence...acceptence is the answer to all my problems today....

On to new begginings this has to be it do it or misery...

Everything looks like a failure in the middle

"You can't bake a cake without getting the kitchen messy. Halfway through surgery it looks like there's been a murder in the operating room. If you send a rocket to the moon, about ninety percent of the time it's off course -- it 'fails' its way to the moon by continually making mistakes and correcting them."

 

[j0504s]

Everything looks like a failure in the middle

"You can't bake a cake without getting the kitchen messy. Halfway through surgery it looks like there's been a murder in the operating room. If you send a rocket to the moon, about ninety percent of the time it's off course -- it 'fails' its way to the moon by continually making mistakes and correcting them."

Got ittrue I like that so happy first approach number close foook ya stilll got it!