"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Spaz got banned?

guru1000

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Say what you want about Spaz, but the man had gems of insight, particularly one that went something like, "A powerful man whom already possesses leadership skills could not foreseeably lack leadership in his interpersonal relations. If you look deeper, you'll see you had already dismissed them ..." And he was square on the money right there.

Just as @Danger is a friend of mine, so is @Spaz. Hence, why I never got involved in their exchanges, nor needed to.

I look forward to Spaz's return.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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glass half full

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What cracks me up is a few examples of "I'm all that!" who judge members here based on their numbers count, either in posting habits or sexual conquests. Some of us have situations that we are in that don't allow us to smash dozens azzez per year, or make machismo-oriented bs grind that we can post like wearing toxic masculinity proudly on our sleeves. Some of us have put what's left of our family first and if someone wants to shame us, tuff spit. Get over it already. I'm sure they know who they are.
 

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Like I often say, pretty much the only thing that gets you banned around here is repeated, and I do mean REPEATED personal insults to fellow members.

@logicallefty essentially said it all. We try very hard to keep it from getting to that.

It baffles me as to why people have to personally attack. People often type on their keyboards stuff they would be very unlikely to say in person. No one gets banned for having a bad day or two. But sustained insulting WILL get a member banned.

Usually an established poster will first get a temp ban in the hopes that he will turn it around. I have personally seen one member who was temp banned for continually insulting and when he came back, he did a complete 180 and although he was a tough customer (a bit abrasive), he no longer personally attacked anyone for the next couple of years. At that time he decided to leave here on good terms as he felt he outgrew the place. I never thought he would turn it around the way he did, and it was great to see this.

For those who asked, Spaz got 30 days. We hope he will come back, and the door is wide open. I consider him a valuable member.

But rules is rules.
 

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Well hope it’s a short time out. Spaz had some good insight.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What? He got banned?! I wouldn't have expected that. I found him to be respectful even though we strongly disagreed. But yeah, another one mad from virtual thumbs up I guess. Good opinions, poor character.

You guys may think the mod team bans people for fun, but we don't. We put a lot of time and effort into avoiding it, and have a lot of discussion in the mod sub forum before pulling the trigger
Whoever has that opinion hasn't been on any other forum or thinks mods aren't necessary at all. If anything you might be banning too few.
 

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You guys may think the mod team bans people for fun, but we don't. We put a lot of time and effort into avoiding it, and have a lot of discussion in the mod sub forum before pulling the trigger
Let's unban him man. Today is march 8th, international beta fag btch worship day. Let's show those hos we are man, let's unban a player, whatever he did, is forgiven.
 

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I find this thread a tad homosexual
 
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