"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Sparking Girls' Interest!

Fitch

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I've been to a few parties, and I've been outside sarging. However, my BIGGEST question has been gnawing my brain for months. With the answer to my question, I can finally become a true DJ.

How does one spark a girl's sexual interest me within a limited amount of time? I approach a girl, and I can talk. I've lost the fear in "the approach." I can talk, but it's hard to establish an interest.

Perhaps my conversation skills are weak. Perhaps not. What is my problem? How can I "open" up a chick? I'm a good looking guy. I dress well. How do I get to the point when I can lay my arm around a girl I just met and pin her against the wall as I kiss her? How do I get her to want me?

I was at a party a few nights ago. I was quite drunk. I noticed this guy just lean in to kiss a chick when the girl asked him to move inside - she wanted to dance, I think. So, what the fvck? How can I get to do that?

This is an answer we are all seeking. Can someone give me the tools necessary to crack this code - or perhaps, the answer itself. I want to be the guy who gets the girl he notices at the party. I'm tired of being the guy who looks at the chick, knowing that he won't get any from her. I want to go up to her with a confident smile, say the right things, and have her think how much she just wants to kiss me.

What are your thoughts?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Skilla_Staz

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I find that Kino is the quickest way to spark sex interest. Her sense of touch will get to her way before all the 'smooth talking' that you can do.
 

flippinfreak

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The short answer... You have to work towards it.

Read her like a book, know where her emotions are, and where she wants to be lead. Have the bedroom eyes from start to finish, keep your voice lowered, no startling speech to trigger a mood swing. Be in a situation where she is willing, if she has other things on her mind, your going to be second classed the entire conversation. If your at a party, makes sure she is drunk.

The most important part is being able to read the girl. Being able to see which emotions she is feeling, and from the choice of her words, and the expressions on her face know what she wants. Pick a slvtty girl if you want sex easily.

Keep sexual tones with everything you say and do. Move slowly, and sensually around her. Make sure you two aren't moving too much, a gentle rocking motion, or a seat with physical action in close proximity is beneficial. Make sure to hold her gaze with your words, let her look away and towards you at the right moments. The right moments are when a person with social value walks past, you can have her look at the person as they make their way closer, signal to them to give you social proof, and call her to your attention before the other person can finish.

You two should be isolated from distractions that will draw you apart without your command. Watching a movie, sitting in a parked vehicle, standing in a corner in a bar, walking down a road. These are all situations where you can control the speed of the interaction.

Make sure you give leading emotional words. Put words into her mouth and into her mind, you do this by visualizing the next step in the interaction. As she looks down make a comment specific to the two of you that makes her feel legitimately good about herself, she will look up to you and break her from her internal thought pattern and she will give you sweet puppy dog eyes.

Those are my thoughts at the moment.
 

Skilla_Staz

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Is this the same guy that said he never gets girls besides online? (Flippinfreak)
 

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Skilla, ever hear of the expression "Do as I say, not as I do?" Its easier to tell people what to do rather then to do it themselves. Trust me, my game could be WAY better if I weren't a little hypocritical
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Fitch

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flippinfreak said:
The short answer... You have to work towards it.

Read her like a book, know where her emotions are, and where she wants to be lead. Have the bedroom eyes from start to finish, keep your voice lowered, no startling speech to trigger a mood swing. Be in a situation where she is willing, if she has other things on her mind, your going to be second classed the entire conversation. If your at a party, makes sure she is drunk.

The most important part is being able to read the girl. Being able to see which emotions she is feeling, and from the choice of her words, and the expressions on her face know what she wants. Pick a slvtty girl if you want sex easily.

Keep sexual tones with everything you say and do. Move slowly, and sensually around her. Make sure you two aren't moving too much, a gentle rocking motion, or a seat with physical action in close proximity is beneficial. Make sure to hold her gaze with your words, let her look away and towards you at the right moments. The right moments are when a person with social value walks past, you can have her look at the person as they make their way closer, signal to them to give you social proof, and call her to your attention before the other person can finish.

You two should be isolated from distractions that will draw you apart without your command. Watching a movie, sitting in a parked vehicle, standing in a corner in a bar, walking down a road. These are all situations where you can control the speed of the interaction.

Make sure you give leading emotional words. Put words into her mouth and into her mind, you do this by visualizing the next step in the interaction. As she looks down make a comment specific to the two of you that makes her feel legitimately good about herself, she will look up to you and break her from her internal thought pattern and she will give you sweet puppy dog eyes.

Those are my thoughts at the moment.
Very insightful... thank you! So basically... work on eye contact, low -seductive- speech, isolation and formulate leading questions/statements to trigger a certain pattern of thought? Did I nail the issue on the head?

EDIT: Oh, and be mindful of her body signals.
 

Zerotwoonenine

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man i find the same prob, i have no prob getting a number or anything, put the prob is that i am not very good at communication so i usually tend to talk for 2 mins, get the numb and run.
I have actully read a tip on this, get 3 openers and 3 stories, make sure openers lead to the stories, practice telling the stories again and again untill you are familar with them, everytime you pick up, use 2 openers and 2 stories, that shold be enough for you to get the numb.
 
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