SP has one-itis!

[SamePendo]

I've got one-itis!!!

Curiously, this is the chick.

" Me, I nexted this hb milf from the gym, which had me under her spell! I wrote about her in one post, she asked ME out the first time, and then I asked her out again, cancelled, then again, cancelled. Meanwhile, she told me that she really felt attracted to me, but it bothered her that I was seeing other chicks. And said that again in front of a friend of hers. Don't worry I didn't fall for that, I just laughed and asked "haha, really!? who?!" And then the next day she said, out of the blue "oh I was just joking". That and other things she did kept my interest from plumetting.

I know some people at were she works, so 2 days ago I went to make plans, greeted those who I knew, asked her out, and she said that she allready had plans. At that moment it hit me that.. wtf was I doing?!??! She should have been nexted years ago!!! She's just a tease. She's almost 40, or 40, and at her office I saw the pic of her son... at that moment I also realized she was a milf. She was married for a month (that she told me the first time). "

Turns out it isn't her son, (makes you wonder btw, it's her sisters). We chatted one day, normally. Just, chatting. I'm a talkative person, and I enjoy chatting with people. So, after chatting for a while (10, 15 minutes maybe), I automatically ask her out. We went out and it was ok. No kiss though, but some kino. We went out on Friday.

On Monday next week I ask her out for Thursday. Thursday comes, oh, and a friend of mine overheard her say when coming down the stairs with two of her friends, looking at me saying "oh he's hott", then noticed my friend, and quickly "ran". I saw this, but obviously didn't listen. .. and so I'm "sweet-talking" her friend. I'm just telling her she's incredibly hot, great smile, and what not. But I wasn't doing it to p.u. her, I was doing it just for the mere enjoyment of watching her blush. As if she's a little girl. This while the hb is on my side, less than 2 feet apart.

So, we go out, I say bye to some people, go over to her car, and she DRIVES OFF!!! I was so pissed!!! Well, on Sunday I was reading a story that had a similar plot than the one I described above and I go .. "ooooh!, that's why the bytch got mad!" I had done the same thing before, and she put on a pissed-off look, that I assumed was jokingly, but she went off without bye-byeing.

On monday I ask her on a calm voice tone, what happened on thursday. She replied "with what? " --"we were going out.." -" I left! Or, did I have a reason to stay?!" In a pissed of, but passive voice, getting a bit louder with each word... less silent with each word. I was like... okkkk!... And felt bad on Monday because, well, she obviously got hurt. And I do feel that it's something to apologize for, not to be asked for pardon... but something to apologize for. We share two firends, one who is really friendly and the other bytch I wasn't sure back then, and I told the friendly one if she could calm her down, because I noticed she was really pissed off, I didn't give her any reason of why she was that way, whatever we do is our problem. The other one "joined in to my conversation". So, on Tuesday I tell her that I apologized for what I did, and I didn't realize I did it until later, and she interrupts and says:

"Really? Well, it's not that! You can't use my time! .... Yeah, you can't (dispose?) of my time, I told you that we weren't going out on Thursday and you didn't listen... yes I did! Anyways, that's why I'm like this".

I was like, oh, ok, great to see you're not pissed of then (sarcasticaly speaking, but she didn't get it), chatted a bit, and then I asked her out, and she said she was busy all this week, I said automaticaly, "oh, well, then next week, Monday." "Oh, I'm busy that week too"

I got it and backed out. She was still speaking in passively pissed off tone, distant too.

Now I know that the 2nd friend is like a witch who acts like a friend but is a major CB. Thing is, I did consider this woman a friend, but she's SUPER CB. MEGA! Friend no.2 CBs me with any female there is! She doesn't show signs of interest, not before and not now. And the 1st one is ok, and even said that friend no.2 freaked her out on her behaviour, and the bytch in question has acted strange too.

Now, this bytch has me totally hooked. I got two #s on Tuesday, conciously , to get the bytch out of my mind. But I'm FVCKING HOOKED! BIGTIME!!!

I'm also jealous! As never before!!! When we were dating, I couldn't care less if she chatted with any bloke, her, or any chick, I don't care. Never, ever. But right now it's a new thing for me, I've never been like that. I saw her chatting to the only other guy who knows abc's in p.u. but I dislike him, he's a clown, not a man. I got FVCKING JEALOUS!

I can get other women. I know that. For fvcks sakes, one of the #s was from a bytch on the bus. I want this woman. And she (was) interested.

My current plan of action is to play it by the day, make it a month goal, in a month do something with her, if not, this thing has GOT to wear out!

Ideas? Support? Bashing?

Thanks for reading!

edit- *..and she (was) interested... *

 

[SamePendo]

Btw it's great to be back to sosuave, all this time I didn't log on, fresh air.

Was this a **** test? Unconcious or not

What is all this ****? I'm SamePendo, I should use the ****block as a bonus and get the rebel in her out. I should make her jealous, basic stuff I now do unconciously. At the end of the day, I should care less. But I don't, reason why I'm posting, again.

Feedback?

 

[asdfghjkl]

Wow, im suprised nobody has tried to help you after all the help you have given everybody else. Ill give it my .02 just so that its bumped

I can get other women. I know that. For fvcks sakes, one of the #s was from a bytch on the bus. I want this woman. And (was) interested.

This is what you have to keep doing for now probably, but you already know that One-itis is a cruel disease that sucks the DJ out of you, i know from experience that the only real way to get rid of it is to move on with your life.

My current plan of action is to play it by the day, make it a month goal, in a month do something with her, if not, this thing has GOT to wear out!

Good plan, just wait a few weeks, try to initiate something again, and if nothing happens just forget about the *****.

 

[SamePendo]

Thanks for the replies!

Be wary of masks that people wear. ...
I would post more but Im going to let you figure some things out on your own.

I saw her today, I was gaming a chick, I saw her and said "what's up!" She turned, smiled openly, said hi with the mouth and got onto her thing.

Then in her range of vision I approached a lonewolf. I had 2 opportunities to go and say hi directly, but didn't. I did say hi to the nice friend, allthough I ignored the other friend, witch.

Masks, in what situation are you talking about? As in the so-called-friend? And, feel free to figure out things for me (please! :wave.

In either case, being it oneitis, or egoitis (which I think, now that you mention it, it is), I suppose the best thing to do is do as asfdaf;ldjfa says, keep doing my thing. Either it will wear down, or it will be a done deal, as long as I keep doing my thing. Oh I got a new #, allthough egoitis didn't see me dong so, but still, I didn't do it so that she saw me.

 

[realsmoothie]

Never seen a guy so excited to have oneitis! Kinda hilarious.

My advice, as I just told another oneitis guy... is to USE those phone numbers and get some physical contact with those girls. It's all fine to get digits, but to feel any better you're going to need to make out/grope/screw one of those girls. Just touching/smelling them will get your brain juices firing right... and increasing your testosterone. Then you'll be able to deal with the gym-chick better.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

To me it sounds like the reason you care about her that much more is because you can no longer have her. Her status rises for the sole fact that she has made herself unattainable. She has flaked on numerous occasions so something is missing in terms of attraction or rapport. The attraction seems to be there physically: she was overheard calling you hot...maybe she needs something mentally, something more concrete. You have proven you are hot and talkative by chatting up her friends and random women but have you talked to her in a way that gets her mentally interested/stimulated?

Next, when she said "just joking" about being single it had clearly been on her mind (unless you brought it up first subconsciously and it was on your mind) IMO You are playing this situation like a club ONS, where you build attraction through social proof and then go for the lay. I think she is playing this like a LTR, meaning more rapport and a personal connection. If it bothers her that you are seeing other chicks...WHY ARE YOU HITTING ON HER FRIENDS AND GOING OUT OF YOUR WAY TO PICK UP CHICKS IN FRONT OF HER? Hasnt she subtly made it clear that she doesnt like this? Im not saying change your ways, but you can stifle your urges a little in her presence (while staying a DJ). IMO that seems like the only option, that or just going cold turkey on the broad.

I dont know about the waiting a month goal. She sounds like a catch since you are pursuing her. Granted you need to give her time to get over the negative feelings she has for you, but at the same time you dont want her to forget about you or get swept away by a new guy. Perhaps less than a month wait? However long you are waiting to reinitiate seducing her, make sure you have other things on the side that you are also actively pursuing. (unknown to her of course) Dont put all your eggs in one basket.

I really thought about what happened because you have helped me in the past and I'm currently doing damage control on a chick because I was trying to look like a ladies man to get her. I could be completely wrong. You still can't ignore the fact that she flaked on you and has cut off most contact with you. I think the reason for that is the only real reason you need to focus on...Why did she do that? Only you know whats going on here, Im just trying to think of some possiblities and alternatives. Nice to see you back btw

 

[SamePendo]

Never seen a guy so excited to have oneitis! Kinda hilarious.

I hope you're enjoying it! :box:!!!

Smoothie, I'll definitely give your advice a go. Let's see how the week goes on, I'll make it a good one!

Microphone, I feel you are spot on, as all the advice has. I'm reading and cracking up, wtf's up with me doing that suave talking. And yes, maybe a month is too long. But I think it will have to wait maybe until next week, at least I'm not as eager and freaked out as before.

So, today I saw her. I was talking to this ug-fattie, standing up, so I cheeked hi. So she's coming in, and was, well, normal, but when I go to her, she gets all cheery, but, like, fake. I say hi, how are you? and she gets all cheery and says "great! -semi laugh of enjoyment-" I turn to the ug, and she shrughs, and so do I. I'm guessing she's doing the "I've got to show I'm ok" on me. Terrible actress though.

I talked to the cool friend, since she was on the weight room. Then, the witch friend and the hb join us, I casually did a 180 turn, avoiding the witch, and left, she (the witch) said "hey friend!" and I ignored and said "hey" under my breath. Bytch.

I'm thinking on avoiding contact this week, but who knows, play it by ear... or something like that is an expression used for this.

Thanks for the replies!

 

[SamePendo]

****ing moron

So, we talk on the gym. Everything is basicaly ok now.

I was about to ask her out twice but I got interrupted.

So, she's leaving, I leave with her, and ask her

"are you busy this week?" and she says "no"

GREAT RIGHT?!?!



Well, clearly this woman has me hooked and gets me all nervous, because I took is as a no to the idea of going out, so I said ok, see you later then, and turned and went my way.

****ing moron.

Well, at least I'm a moron on cool situations, not like, not wiping my nose having a big green one clinging from my nose... I'm still cool

 

[Phyzzle]

Rejection is the ultimate interest level raiser.

But the lesson here is NEVER sweet-talk some random chick when you're already on a date!

As everyone here knows, you need to suggest that you are being chased by other women. But some guys think you should take a girl to dinner, hit on the waitress right in front of her, and try to get her digits right there. No, that's not gonna fly.

 

[SamePendo]

I hit rock fvcking bottom.
I never had gone so goo goo on a girl. Not even in my niceguy days. Back then I didn't because of my self-concious personality, I never wanted to look hooked on any woman. Now I did. I won't lie to you guys, I feel down man. I'll read this in a weeks time and probably hit myself.

I stopped pursuing other women, i thought, that should ease her. Apparently her ex-husband (red flag, but, comes with the age) and her ex-bfs were unfaithful so she's paranoical about that. So I slowly stopped doing that.

She gave me IOIs; kino, holding me and telling me not to go (somewhere), telling me to tell a girl that I do like her, so that she (the other girl) dies of envy, did I say kino?, ... IOIs man. She gave them, and kept giving them.

Here comes the NiceGuyish bs. I sent her flowers. Oh ****. Flowers. I said the day before, "tomorrow will be a great day", so that she absolutely knew they were mine. Btw, I asked her what she was doing, that was monday night, and she said she had a "commitment". And when I see her, tuesday I say "hey, how you doin?"
-fine, you?
-great, how was your day?
-It was ok, normal. (speaking in her normal tone, which is normal inclining on happy).
-Oh, really?
-Yes, and yours?
-Fine fine... so, your days are always great then... (I thought she would talk about the flowers).
-Yes, well, not great, normal.
..
-So, did you get.. .. the flowers?
-Oh, yes yes yes.
-You must get flowers everyday then (sarcasticaly speaking, NiceGuy speaking too).
-Well, yes ... I get from clients.. when I was coming back to work I saw this guy running with the flowers, and I said "oh how cute, some guy sent his gf flowers, and I come in and the security guy says they are from me and I say cool.
-Oh, ok.
-And why the kind gesture?
-(I look at her with -oh come on!- expression).
-Oh, ok, what a gentleman.
-(I make a "right" expression) So, before I forget, when do we go out?
-Sorry?
-Yes... go out, when do we go out?
-Oh, I'm busy (in her same tone, mantaining eye contact).
-Well, yeah, but how about in the week?
-Oh I'm busy too.
-(I knew it going down from the beggining so it was a suicide mission) Ok, next week?
-I'm busy too.
-(I look at her with "oh come on" expression again.
-Yes well.. (she said something like: ) I'm in a relationship.
-Oh really? ... Since when?
-Like... 3 months ago.
-Oh ok then... (people start talking to us, and after a little I say bye).

Please note that she didn't say thankyou. Sorry if this is long, it's therapeutical, If you've read so far I thank you.

Things that went wrong.

- I stopped spinning plates. This always is great since it automatically puts you in another mindset, the right one.
- She didn't prove **** to me, I shouldn't have let her just pass all the filters and do all that crazy **** for her. And that's basic AD stuff.


Now, she lead me on guys. Why do you think that was? I guess it was a-whoring. She's near her forties, and some young dude, not the best looking, but has some things going on.. you bet she gets her ego up. And the relationship thing is bs, we went out together in that time period.

Unless, it is true, and she just wanted to get some boytoy action from me, and I played it all gentle-manish. Maybe I scared her off with the flowers, and now she's like oh ****, I don't want this.

Turns out her ex-hb never had nothing going for him, bad looking, jobless, you know the drill.

I'm happy this happened though. I recently read a thread on guys doing afc ****, and I said, geez, these guys were fvcking LOST! Now there's no where to go but up.

Feedback? Comments? Thankyou.

 

[Docs]

Ouch...

Good luck on the journey up again!

 

[Nighthawk]

Maybe I scared her off with the flowers, and now she's like oh ****, I don't want this.

Most likely. And as you also admitted, you failed to make her qualify herself.

She guilt-tripped you into not seeing other women (her exes were unfaithful - a clue to the kind of man she finds attractive) but if she was really into you this could be a natural progression into a LTR. Chances are there were lots of other shyt-tests you failed so as not to 'upset' her.

But it could also be that you are rebound guy, or a pawn in her games with her ex, or that she is more into games than anything else.

Now you are angry at yourself. For not heeding the signs, for idealising a woman out of proportion with reality, for allowing yourself to be rejected. Well, accept it, learn the lesson (sounds like you have) and move on. Look forward not back. And ffs no more flowers.

 

[SamePendo]

Help!

Yes, again with this bytch.

Don't think that I have been just deaf ears to your advice guys. I haven't. I have been following the advice and what I know is right to do.

I started doing my thing again, you know, women-wise. I won't lie, it was kind of weird at first, but, it's like a habit, so I got into it and started renewing contact with the ones I was seeing, and with new women.

Precisely, in the gym, there was this chick I hadn't even spoke to, which is unnatural to me since all hot bytches are approached by me asap. Anyways, on thursday I chatted from a distance in the gym, did my thing (although didn't close). Stay with me, I'm getting somewhere.

I was in the parking lot, and oneitis chick comes, but so does this new chick, and I start doing my thing. And chat up the new chick, normal. And then the guy that takes care of the cars and all, when the oneitis chick gets out of the car and to the gym, tells me that the oneitis chick stared the whole time at both of us and that she gave a (don't know how it's called in english, when the person looks from up to down in a evil way, as to display superiority) and says the oneitis did that HARDCORE on the new chick. So I'm like... she's crazy.. she had her chance, and now she scares off my chicks, fvck her.

I get into the gym, and, to cut it short, the new chick is giving me a massage 5 minutes after (just to give you an idea, I do know my stuff), and then I close her... I don't know if oneitis chick saw, but there were some chicks there just staring at the show, soon or later she knows.

So, I left. Now, right now I was real cool. I didn't even think of oneitis chick, I just thought on my masteful moves on the new chick and others.


I HAD A NIGHTMARE!


My brother and I, him being a bit older, always competed as kids, and he always won, being older, obviously. So there is this infantile trauma there...

I dreamt, to cut it short, that my brother fvcked oneitis chick, even knowing that I liked her. Oneitis chick even gave him a bj! In the dream I was fvcking PISSSED! I don't remember the last time I was that pissed off! I started crying from the pissed ofness! Then I realized it was a dream, and struggled to wake up. It was like 3am. I woke up, sweating, crying, hyperventilating, and fvcking pissed off! It took me more than an hour to get to sleep again.

All of this is strange to me. I never was jealous. I used to chat with a absolute natural PUA about how he fvcked my gf, and I was like cool! And learnt from him etc. It's like I'm someone else, I don't know this part of me. Jealousy is a sign of insecurity.

Now I woke up on saturday, to be infatuated with the oneitis chick, again. Sunday too. Now, I practically stayed at home the weekend, so maybe it was too much time to think things. But it's Monday, and here you have me posting about her.

I plan to take my brother not to meet her, but to tell him not to even look at her. We have a good relationship now. That, and to keep doing my thing with the chicks.


Please help out guys. Comments? Feedback? Something I'm missing?

 

[( . )( . )]

What can I say man, You asked for help and I'm wallowing in my own self pity and oneitis at the moment. I'd be a fraud to comment on this chick of yours.

I personally have to spin more plates, real plates if available, none of this tupperware sh!t I've been fooling myself with and think less, for what its worth maybe you can do the same?

 

[Charm]

DROP THE PITY. DROP THE IDEA THAT YOU WILL EVER GET THIS GIRL. YOU MUST RECOOP YOUR SENSES AND MOVE THE FVCK ON OR REMAIN A PVSSY FOREVER.

With that said, you made a lot of AFC comments to her in regards to the flowers. You even ASKED her when she was availabale to go out with you rather than telling her when you were going to take her out. "Ill take you out on thursday, im free that night".

Basically she saw you as having your entire world revolve around her and to her you were NO CHALLENGE at all. Completely weak and boring.

NEXT.

 

[Docs]

Whoa, Titman cares about something, man. I learn something new everyday

 

[SamePendo]

I won't lie. I have done an effort to move on. And I am allready spinning plates. But haven't fvcked yet so, maybe that is also keeping me from forgetting, but whatever.

It doesn't help seeing her daily. But oh, wtf.

 

[SamePendo]

For the record. I'm back.

Back as in SamePendo, not as in oneitis-SamePendo. Crazy stuff.

 

[SamePendo]

For the record. I'm back.

Back as in SamePendo, not as in oneitis-SamePendo. Crazy stuff.

BULLSH¡T

I didn't want to post asking for help because I wanted to handle this on my own, but, hey, this is what this board is for, advice comes and goes. And in this case I've got to have it come to me. I'll appreciate your comments.

Last thing first. Last night, I couldn't sleep. I thought about telling this friend to hit on her and to go for the lay. It was fun at first, the thought of it, but then, it kept me awake. Seeing her at least kissing him, blowing him. It kept me awake.

I'll tell you my actual situation. For example, yesterday, this chick invited me over to her apt. "for some water". The day before yesterday this other chick asked ME out, I declined, I was tired. This other chick today morning was fondling me. This isn't me trying to be e-cool, I'll leave that for FRs etc whistle: ) This is me giving you the actual situation, which is, women are not a problem for me.

I found out stuff about her. She's fvcking crazy.

- She's a devote Cristian. Goes to mass and to those courses and all. (Which is ok, but, see the whole picture).

- As I said before, she has the picture of a little kid, that's not her own, it's her nephew (average crazy chick stuff).

- (!!!) She has this kick ass job. But, before that, she was the secretary to the biggest guy in the ... (business?) in the city. To get to the job she has, there are lots of steps to go in the ladder of the (enterprise?). But, guess what? She went from being the secretary of the biggest guy, to being this huge position in the (enterprise). And it isn't rumor, it's how it is. People quit when this happened.

- We talked again. nono She told me that she was in her days when the whole misunderstading about the date happened. If I remember correctly, she allready had a bf when we 2 went on a date. She asked me about a woman friend of mine, and told me that "someone she had never seen, and never has seen again" told her that my friend and me were a couple, and asked me about that. She told me other things, I don't remember them right now, sorry. Well, we agreed on trying again. I ask her out, and she tells me "I'm too "baby" for her". Fvcking *****. But it doesn't stop there, I ignored her after that, and again, she comes for the attention, and after some insisting, she asks me "when are you going to ask me out?". So basically, we agree to see each other in the gym and then go from there, guess what? She doesn't show up.

- She was considering (didn't tell me) being in a relationship with a guy that she only had been distant friends with. He's loaded. They hadn't even dated, she was allready SERIOUSLY considering moving in with him. Apparently she didn't, but she did return to her own house. ..

- She was living with her parents, according to her, her husband was psycho, and even though it is a gated community with 24/7 security, she was afraid. When the whole moving in with that guy thing happened, she moved out of her parents, and now lives in the house she has owned for some time now.

- All her previous relationships have been with losers, jerks, no-ones in life.. hmmmm! Makes you think... she comes to me when I ignore her. hmmm

I'm sure there is more, but I don't remember right now. We see each other in the gym. I haven't talked to her since she stood me up. I turn around somewhere else when I pass near her, or simply just look at where I'm going. I've seen her looking at me from away. She's in the way of where I'm looking at so I just am looking at a ghost. I know her pattern of conduct, she will start getting in my way to initiate in one way or another conversation.

Now, there's that, and and another problem, that I think may be related. I lose all attraction to women who I know are now open to opening their legs. You can just see it in their eyes. Once I see that in their eyes, I lose interest. Maybe it's because I'm just a hunter, because of the hunt, not because I'm hungry. And this enormous hor has me hooked because she continues to curve around me.

Now, I'm not going to tell you that I can get any woman I want, it doesn't work that way with me. I do get rejected in one way or another, so maybe it isn't just that with this hor.

Please help me ignore this hor. Ignore, get her curse from me, exorcise me of something.

My plan of action is to ignore her again, and this time keep myself in Jerk mode. No trace of niceguy. Jerk 100%. Fvck the HOR (She is nothing but a H O R) and get this **** over with. And by fvck, I mean, degrade the bytch while fvcking, lose interest in her as I lose it with other women. If I don't lose interest quickly continue until I do.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

So what else is new?