Ok, I'm 24 and this is the first girl ever, that I am gone seriously try to make something out of, I have never tried the dating scene before.
Somehow I wasn't attracted to girls before, just until last year, so you could say, my faliur has been due to lack of tries, not my looks or personality, as I found out recently, I talk very well with girls, just needed the passion to pursue girls intimately...
So, I've been going to caffee shop after class with this girl, whole semester long, and she has even offered me to join her girl friends to play poker this friday..
But here's the thing, she is looking for job, and using me as a guidence, and has confided in me lots of stuff, I was even able to ask her offboard questions during practice interview last sunday.
From what I see, she has got lots of girl friends, I don't think she has boy friend... But here's the thing how aggresive should I be? Will she backaway if I start talking to her daily on MSN? Should I just wait for the poker game?
This girl is really career oriented and I really care about her, so do I take fast approach and risk losing her completely? or should I plan my steps, slowly to make sure she gets to know me better; hence making real personal connection before going into social aspect of things?
So far, the impression she has of me is confident, knowledgeable, understanding, and we even have similar familly background, as she is also living with her parents, and is not like oher chics, I got a impression that she is not acuqainted with the game..
Is it always friendship or being lover? Is there a middle ground? Is it very bad to be in middle?
And one more final thing, she's Korean and I'm from south Indian familly, does that change anything?
Please guys give me word of encouragement, and whatever that you can, as I really need more support as I have almost no support from friends or familly, when it comes to improving my social aspect of things, normally I'm just expected to get married through arrange marriage, but you could say I had a sort of an awakenning, that has made me question the whole foundation of my reality and my essence...
Somehow I wasn't attracted to girls before, just until last year, so you could say, my faliur has been due to lack of tries, not my looks or personality, as I found out recently, I talk very well with girls, just needed the passion to pursue girls intimately...
So, I've been going to caffee shop after class with this girl, whole semester long, and she has even offered me to join her girl friends to play poker this friday..
But here's the thing, she is looking for job, and using me as a guidence, and has confided in me lots of stuff, I was even able to ask her offboard questions during practice interview last sunday.
From what I see, she has got lots of girl friends, I don't think she has boy friend... But here's the thing how aggresive should I be? Will she backaway if I start talking to her daily on MSN? Should I just wait for the poker game?
This girl is really career oriented and I really care about her, so do I take fast approach and risk losing her completely? or should I plan my steps, slowly to make sure she gets to know me better; hence making real personal connection before going into social aspect of things?
So far, the impression she has of me is confident, knowledgeable, understanding, and we even have similar familly background, as she is also living with her parents, and is not like oher chics, I got a impression that she is not acuqainted with the game..
Is it always friendship or being lover? Is there a middle ground? Is it very bad to be in middle?
And one more final thing, she's Korean and I'm from south Indian familly, does that change anything?
Please guys give me word of encouragement, and whatever that you can, as I really need more support as I have almost no support from friends or familly, when it comes to improving my social aspect of things, normally I'm just expected to get married through arrange marriage, but you could say I had a sort of an awakenning, that has made me question the whole foundation of my reality and my essence...