SoSuave Personality Disorder

[narcissist]

This site creates two distinct personalities.

The Independent Don Juan

The first personality that this site manufactures is the personality that every man in the world should strive to achieve. This is characterized by personality traits such as hardworking, motivated, dedicated, only wanting the best for oneself. A man who strives only for the best. This is a person who works hard towards achieving an amazing education, becoming physically fit, becoming socially aware, always working towards gaining more knowledge and intelligence. Namely, a man who strives for INDEPENDENCE. INDEPENDENCE from women, and others, and one who is wholeheartedly content with his life and himself and doesn’t need anyone else to “complete” it. THIS personality, is of course the personality that is directly promoted on this site. Becoming independent and always being in a perpetual state of bettering yourself while at the same time as being completely positive and enjoying it is the root of this site in my opinion, and is what creates CORE CONFIDENCE. This personality is a journey. It is not easy to indoctrinate this into ones core self, and can be easily mistaken for the other personality that this site creates. When you have officially hit the level of complete independence and are truly the embodiment of this personality, the best personality to have in my opinion, you hit a level of not ever needing vagina again. This is when you become a true Don Juan. When you are completely content with abstinence. This is the healthy personality that comes out of this site.

The SoSuave Personality Disorder

The second personality, which is created through cookie cutting mechanisms, that this site manufactures is the personality that is ENRAPTURED by THE VAG. One would say they become a SLAVE to vagina and the art and pleasure of getting laid. It is almost a narcissistic supply in most cases and is used for the satisfaction of deep inner problems. Everything this person does is indirectly or directly caused by pvssy. Their behaviours, actions, the way they speak, walk, talk, the way they look, all of their idiosyncrasies. It begins, more often then not by a heart break or a friendzoning, and they start uses the doctrines this site offers, until it becomes nature. But the unhealthy aspect is that this nature ends up guiding their actions, and it becomes nature to gauge their own actions by how a woman would react. Sooner or later, they become a slave to the vag, constantly analyzing and constantly in thought about what to do next, or how to text them in a concise way in order to get their panties wet. I know this because I became that. This can be bad. Most likely because it starts guiding your actions, like what job to get, so I can marginalize on income in order to be a boss so women will think im high value, so I can slam them. Or I should go to the gym because f I work out and get shredded it will be easier for me to get girls. Or I should read, write, get hobbies to look busy, get into sports all so I can gain high value in the eyes of women so I can satisfy my biological urge for sexual pleasure.

Now im not saying all of these are wrong or you should do these things. I am just saying it is not healthy to be doing all these positive things strictly for VAGINA. Now you all may say that you do it for yourself but look deep into your psyche and you know if all your actions are for vagina. If vagina wasn’t available anymore would you still be doing those positive things? If yes then you are on the right track. If no, and you really have to answer yourself truthfully, then you may have “SoSuave personality disorder”. A man who gauges all his actions based on whether it will increase his value solely for the enjoyment of pvssy.

Let me tell you, this is a life not worth living. You are a SLAVE. You are not living life for YOU. We should ALL, if we are TRULY dj’s be at a point where we don’t need sex AT ALL. Then and only then are we free, and independent.

You should be getting an education FOR YOU

You should be getting shredded FOR YOU

You should be reading a plethora of books and journals FOR YOU

You should become a boss FOR YOU

You should be trying to contribute something to this world and make it a better place.

I think half the reason why human civilization is so completely and inherently flawed is because 98% of men are gauging their actions ONLY for the purposes of getting laid. It is a biological NEED, be we can RISE above it and control it. That is the benefit of being a human being, is that we aren’t bound by our biological desires.

We should be endlessly promoting INDEPENDCE. TRUE independence. Because I believe that SoSuave can create AMAZING men but the majority of men that get moulded in this community end up being SLAVES to the pvssy.


Just my two cents. Be fvcking bosses for yourself bruhs. Get to a point where you DON’T NEED PVSSY.

 

[Dgwizdal]

Very well said. Starting to slide myself - might be time for a break. Repped.


You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to narcissist again

 

[CaptainSaveAh0]

I honestly couldnt agree with you more on this.

Everyone should be striving to be the Independent Don Juan. Not only does the Independent Don Juan have success with woman but he also starts to succeed with other factors in his life such as wealth, health , goals , etc. It is important to take the information in from this sight and process it however it applies to you. Not everything is right, and not everything may work for you.

After reading "the game" I was kind of disgusted by the PUA lifestyle they were living and how everyone was just stealing everyone's personalities in order to get a quick lay. Also how addicted these people became to chasing pvssy instead of chasing their own dreams. There defiantly needs to be a balance in life.

The best method is to develop your own style and personality through trial and error, there is no easy way out. It seems like the "personality disorder" DJ's will do whatever they can for the pvssy and follow whatever method is told to them.

everyone is looking for an easy way out these days when the main problem is usually themselves. Start fixing yourself and everything will start coming into place slowly but surely.

Great post, REPPED

 

[JohnChops]

short version: if youre doing something to improve yourself for anyone but yourself then you are in the wrong.

 

[adam225]

FVCK BRILLIANT THREAD. THIS IS THE SH1T THAT I FIRMLY BELIEVE AS WELL !!!

It's your life and you should be living it for YOU - Strive to be independent; NOT codependent !

REPPED BRO

 

[synergy1]

There are several problems with promoting independence in any context. The first is that it is an evolutionary contradiction to our species to be truly independent. Our society has gotten to where it has based on cooperation, and our ability to segregate abilities and work towards a whole. Suddenly thinking we can simply bypass/ shortcut this mechanism is folly. The second is that even if people wanted to be truly independent, 99% simply do not have the capabilities or the drive to do so. Again, it goes back to people wanting shortcuts - people will be independent was soon as its convenient, rather than actually strive for it in any sense. Like it or not, we are all in this together..

To bring real experience into the fray one can look no further than the person typing this post. Lately I have abdicated trying to date and have been only focusing in on myself - career, outside interests, and working out. Thats been it. Its safe to say that its going pretty well on all fronts. My career will line up and afford me to take my outside interests ( special situation investing) and eventually become financially independent. However independence in my situation is exactly as I described above...it will require being the opposite in order to achieve. Thats fine.

And oh yeah for those that say working on yourself and not focusing on women is the way to get women are wrong. In the past 6 months I have been with maybe two women, and no real signs of getting them. I am sort of dating a chick, but she lives a light year away.. but this situation is fickle at best. In short, my efforts are not yielding women but I really don't care. If you really want women in your life, and you are a regular guy, you have to work for it. Again, this line of thought that "ignoring" women is a shortcut to getting women is wrong. For the time being I am okay with it. But for the newbies who read dogmatic passages like " focus on yourself and women will come" need to understand the caveats associated with it. These aren't shortcuts, and if you want something in life you have to go out and get it.

 

[iamnobody]

Great post title. Good motivational speech. Cheers, narcissist.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Nothing new, but a good encapsulation.

 

[3agle 3yes]

...There are several problems with promoting independence in any context. The first is that it is an evolutionary contradiction to our species to be truly independent. Our society has gotten to where it has based on cooperation, and our ability to segregate abilities and work towards a whole. Suddenly thinking we can simply bypass/ shortcut this mechanism is folly...

You seem to have confused being independent with solitude...they are NOT synonyms.

Independent:

1.FREE from outside control; NOT SUBJECT to another's authority.

2. NOT DEPENDING ON ANOTHER for livelihood or subsistence.

Whereas...

Solitude:

1. the state or situation of BEING ALONE.

2. a lonely or UNINHABITED place.

Just because your improving for your self, doesn't mean you need to to shut out women completely...it just means you could MANAGE without them.

It means you don't rely EMOTIONALLY on women...they neither make you happy nor depressed.

You are FREE/NOT SUBJECT/NOT DEPENDENT on them emotionally...

Do you get it now?

...But for the newbies who read dogmatic passages like " focus on yourself and women will come" need to understand the caveats associated with it. These aren't shortcuts...

For someone who has been on this forum for so long you should know better...

Focusing on yourself is NOT a shortcut, if anything it's the opposite...

The type of women a man attracts is based on how much he values HIMSELF.

The problem with many guys is that they are ALREADY in an unhappy place where they DON'T value themselves and they are attracted to forums like these because they believe dating and fvcking beautiful women will fill the "void" and make them feel valuable.

The newbies can take it from me, it won't.

What you have ISN'T what you are, what you have is BECAUSE of what you are.

This is why it is FUNDAMENTAL to work on yourself (yes, actually ignore women IF it helps).

If you work on yourself, your own perceived value goes UP...and like I said, the man a woman attracts is based on how he values HIMSELF.

 

[3agle 3yes]

Double Post.

 

[SSuaveSavior]

Get to a point where you DON’T NEED PVSSY.

Every man needs pvssy, you're a liar or a queer if you think otherwise.

This is the trend that is going on in the PUA community where the mantra is "Improve yourself and women will come." I personally dislike that notion because it's similar to saying I'm going to lose weight, but sit on my ass all day. Having reasoning parallel to voluntarily being celibate or truly indifferent toward women will hinder your success with women. You aren't going to be good if you stop practicing.

Gender interactions are very different between men and women. As men, we can openly talk to each other and find ways to progress our relationships - either business or personal. We tell them what we are looking for and find ways to reach those goals in the very beginning. On the other have women. 90% of all interactions are done 'under the table.' You can not have open conversations with women and be successful. Success with women are picking up on subtle hints and capitalizing on non-verbal cues. There should be no reason to intentionally stop pursuing women. You need constant exposure to women in order to improve your social skills with women.

Tying this in with your view of SSPD, your success with women depends on how large your bag of tactics are. Even if she wants intimacy from you, you can not openly discuss that with her. The moment you do, BAM! She's running for the hills. Our society today deems craving intimacy is weak and unattractive for men. Guess what happens when you repress those natural desires? You will have a plethora of desperate and frustrated men. Pvssy is important, just don't lose self-respect for it.

 

[adam225]

Every man needs pvssy, you're a liar or a queer if you think otherwise.
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Wrong, every man wants pvssy. There's a BIG difference between wanting and needing something.

If a man honestly believes he needs a women to be "complete", then he needs a SERIOUS reality check. A women should always be last on your list of importance, and never viewed as anymore than "a bit of fun".

You were born into this world to be free and independent - to live a free, fun and great life, not to be tied down and codependent on some "soul mate".

 

[SSuaveSavior]

Needing women and needing pvssy are not the same thing. Get off your high horse, my man.

If you aren't fvcking and need to justify why you aren't fvcking, you are either a liar or a queer.

Edit: Sentence synergy.

 

[adam225]

Needing women and needing pvssy are not the same thing. Get off your high horse, my man.

If you aren't fvcking and need to justify why you're not fvcking, you are either a liar or a queer.

Do you know the difference between "need & want" ? I need water, food, and the roof over my head. I WANT pvssy (like any other luxury in life). If I don't get it - then fine, if I do - then bonus. Will I break my back or change myself in anyway just to get it ? NO. My main focus is myself and my own happiness.

 

[narcissist]

Every man needs pvssy, you're a liar or a queer if you think otherwise.

This in my opinion, SSuaveSavior, has no scientific backing. For, Need implies that without it we would cease to live. I need food to sustain my biological processes. I need water to sustain my biological mechanisms. Without these things, we would keel over and die in a very short amount of time. Individually, men do not need pvssy or women. It is not a biological necessity, individually. Sexual reproduction only becomes a necessity in natural selection and for the species AS A WHOLE. For if our species ceased to reproduce, there would be no new offspring and obviously our species would die off. Thankfully, there is an abundance of other human beings out there continually contributing to the vapid expansion of our species, so i doubt it will die off soon. I digress, it is evident that us, individually, do not need sex to live. If i ceased to have sexual intercourse with women for the rest of my life i would stay alive and would not be biologically affected in any way whatsoever. Granted, you could bring up the argument that it may affect me psychologically. Regardless, I wouldnt cease to exist, unlike if food and water were stripped away from me.

So scientifically speaking, it is not a necessity to life that men have sex with women. consider asexuals, or homosexuals, or buddhist monks, or life long virgins. All of these males have not had sex with female and live healthy lives.
so in my opinion you argument doesnt stand up.

Now, I want to clarify. I am NOT promoting abstinence, only promoting a mindstate where abstinence wouldnt affect our life, where if women ceased to exist, we would still actually care about our goals and aspirations. I will continue to have sex, but at this point in my life I WILL NOT WORK FOR IT. I will only work towards my goals and my dreams. It is in my opinion a waste of worldly time to chase after girls - it is so terrestrial.

Once again I digress. The point i was trying to make in this post is this:

It is not a problem to chase after girls but when it becomes your sole purpose and goal in life, you have taken the wrong path and have become a temporal slave, which is the majority of guys that come on here. Instead, spend 90-95 % of your time working towards your goals for yourself and not for anyone else, and that is a life well lived. Once again, it is only my opinion.

lastly, I am not promoting IGNORING women. NOR am i promoting IGNORING women TO GET THEM lol. or work on your goals to get them. That would be an inherent paradox in my argument. This post has NOTHING to do with getting women. INDEPENDENCE is NOT a tactic to use to get women. This is exactly the mindstate that one with SoSuave personality disorder would have. And proves my point exactly.

Get to a point where you DONT GIVE A FVCK if women are gauging you for value.

Get to a point where you DONT CARE about the presence of a women in your life


ask yourselves this question and you will know for sure if you have SSPD

If given an ultimatum where you either choose abstinence from sex (you never have sex again in your life) BUT you complete and achieve your dreams and goals OR you get to have sex with all the women you want but NEVER get to achieve you dreams. WHICH WOULD YOU PICK?

this is the point i'm trying to make. Most men would pick the second option, and this is what i believe is one of many inherent flaws in society.

So go out there and DETACH yourself from the chains and shackles of THE VAG. Strive towards YOUR GOALS. BREAK AWAY FROM THE FRAY. and if you want to continue having sex GOOD FOR YOU. i will continue having sex as well. I JUST WONT MAKE IT THE GOAL OF MY LIFE.

 

[skinnyguy]

Many guys from sosuave have narcissistic personality disorder. PHM was the biggest one but there are several others.


Sure you should do it for yourself, but at the end of the day, you know that you're doing it for pvssy. If you didn't care about pvssy, you'd just sit around eating chips and salsa all day. Doing it for pvssy is actually a great motivator, whether you like it or not. Getting the lay is just a bonus.

 

[zekko]

Need implies that without it we would cease to live

Not necessarily. It CAN mean that, but: The word "need" is used many different ways. Like "I need a drink". Picking out a few definitions from the following link:

"a strong feeling that you must have or do something"

"a lack of something requisite, desirable, or useful"

"a physiological or psychological requirement for the well-being of an organism"

"a condition requiring supply or relief"

"lack of the means of subsistence : poverty"

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/need

Guys here like to ridicule Maslow's heirarchy of needs. But I think Maslow talks about sex as a need in the sense that it is a biological drive. I don't think many people can deny that sex is a biological drive, and a strong one at that. If not, people wouldn't be here. Regardless, I liked your original post.

 

[VikingKing]

Not need pvssy, that's pvssy worship. But be able to easily get pvssy when you want it.

 

[Trump]

I think half the reason why human civilization is so completely and inherently flawed is because 98% of men are gauging their actions ONLY for the purposes of getting laid. It is a biological NEED, be we can RISE above it and control it. That is the benefit of being a human being, is that we aren’t bound by our biological desires.

In theory you may be right, but unfortunately society doesn't care if you are slave to the woman, just as long as you have a woman.

No one cares you are doing things for you, they want to see outcome. If you have a girl on your arm while grocery shopping yet you are her slave, you are worth more. As long as you have the girl on your arm you have more value to society than a guy who takes no crap from any girl but is alone. It's all about emotion and feeling for the public.

Not saying to pander and cater, just the way it is in 2014.

 

[Serenity]

The natural progression of personal and psychological development as I see it is that we go our own way to end up at the same place. By this I mean we overcome ourselves for others. The magnitude of your power over others is determined by how much you care about others. Every single person that has achieved something big made a huge impact on others, including Neil Strauss, Tyler/Owen (RSD), Albert Einstein, Morgan Freeman, Socrates, Aristotle and the list goes on and on. They all lived for something bigger than themselves for the good of others. When you really focus it down you end up finding "the one", but it's through understanding that we keep together.

So how I view it is that my feelings belong to others and my thoughts belong to the world. The amount of power this gives me over others is immense, but it must be used for the right thing. So think far, think big, but do it for others and you don't have to care about all the details you're dealing with now. We're not perfect, but we can still do our best within our limits.

The point I'm trying to make is that women deserve respect and so does you, and if you understand the balance you will be successful. I know several people here are on their way to realizing it, but there is nothing I can do to force anyone. We all have to see for ourselves.

So how does it work practically? I went from being submissive and shy to being the guy that people point towards just by me being me. I can walk past people and hear them talking about me. When I talk to girls their heads goes crazy because I simply reflect back what they say with a part of me. People can't fvck with me anymore, they even give up arguing simply because when I'm certain of something I express it correctly. And thus they have no other choice than to accept reality as it is. I can see how they don't like that I own them, but my hope is that they learn.