"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I used to believe I had been changed, but not until recently had I had proof.

I've been hanging out with my friend's g/f a lot lately, and we almost had a thing before they hooked up. I guess you could say I next-ed her prematurely, but whatever. With respect to my buddy, I make no passes at her, and act totally indifferent. She's a really attractive girl, really cool, and we have similar interests. Normally I would be all over her, but I have too much respect for my buddy.

I've become aware of her in a second nature kind of way. She answers to my every command and is very body movement expressive. This realization led to my mental renaissance.

Thanks to sosuave, I can now say that I am fully in control and aware of myself, as well as other people. Just wanted to say thanks to you guys for taking me from AFC status to where I am today.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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NOte:

If you have to make a post about you not taking advantage of a girl that is your guy's G/F, then you must have really been thinking about it, meaning you really haven't changed much, you just now realize it's wrong.

Man, not to boost, but I'm to a point now that I am offended if my GF's friends don't find me attractive. My GF has 8 pretty good attractive friends, and if me and her broke up today, I could have sex with at least 5 of them that i know. I know for a fact that she knows one of her friends wants me because she told me she doesn't trust her around me because she is always talking about how good of a catch I am and how if I were single she would be all over me. One day she told me how she likes to give head right in front of my GF.

One day when my GF was at work, her cousin, who was visiting from cali, "accdiently" left her jacket at my house and asked could she change at my house because she was getting ready to go out... NOt only did she change at my house, but she got down to her Bra and Panties right in front of me (and she is very, very cute).. She made it ovbious on what she wanted, until I made it clear that I had no interest in her whatsoever and she got changed and left.

Hell, TODAY, not longer than 3 hours ago, I had my younger cousins over, one 19, one 20 and some of their friends, who are my friends and their girls...all in all about 8 people. One of their friends had a GF that wouldn't take her eyes off of me, and I am in a white tee-shirt and some red reebok shorts (daminit it's my house and i have a GF, i'm not trying to impress them). Every question she asked was to me, not even the guy she was with....


But I think nothing of these things, and If I made a post about all of this crap I would have alot more posts.

I am not gloating, but what I am saying, si that I, as I am sure alot of other pe ople here are at a point where **** like this doesn't matter.

I mean, you already Next'd her. Why are you even payingh er attention?

I honestly think she next'd you, giong by your post, and you think she still likes you.
 

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I guess it wasn't a good story to back myself up with. I'm just tryin to explain how I'm feeling aware of everything around me and feeling secure about it, no matter what it is. It's pretty cool considering I've always sort of been scared of everything.
 

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well, that always is good. Only you truely know if you have changed or not.

One of the first things I started to notice coming here were the little things, like girls hitting on you, or girls being interested, or when a girl wanted no part of you
 

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Originally posted by babysfirstcoffin
I used to believe I had been changed, but not until recently had I had proof.

I've been hanging out with my friend's g/f a lot lately, and we almost had a thing before they hooked up. I guess you could say I next-ed her prematurely, but whatever. With respect to my buddy, I make no passes at her, and act totally indifferent. She's a really attractive girl, really cool, and we have similar interests. Normally I would be all over her, but I have too much respect for my buddy.

I've become aware of her in a second nature kind of way. She answers to my every command and is very body movement expressive. This realization led to my mental renaissance.

Thanks to sosuave, I can now say that I am fully in control and aware of myself, as well as other people. Just wanted to say thanks to you guys for taking me from AFC status to where I am today.
Sorry, but you haven't taken some huge leap... you did take the step of going from AFC to rAFC tho... start getting some field reports under your belt (whether or not you post them) and then see how much you progress instead of just reading.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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