sosuave got me from point A to point B... lost finding my way to point C

[unsatisfied]

over the last year or so i have been applying some of the learning on this site out in the field. it has played a large part in helping me approach, meet and sleep with a number of different types of women - ill talk about my experiences in a later post.


but something im really struggling with at the moment, ill summarise into dot points for clarity and I was hoping you could provide some insight into reconciling my conflicting thoughts:


1) regardless of how attractive or not the girl i am currently sleeping with is, or how many plates i am spinning at the time whether its one or multiple i am always lusting after the women I don't have


2) I am visually attracted and turned on by women I see out at clubs, in the office, in the mall on the street etc etc, in my head I love everything about women, except I don't have the tolerance to spend long periods of time with women in a non-sexual way - when im hanging out with them im thinking about all the self improvement things I should be doing rather than giving them my attention


3) but most confusing to me: it doesn't matter what kind of girl I game how pretty or ugly she is, once I get her in bed and get her clothes off, it feels like ugh the challenge is over, its just another generic naked female bod... same old tits and snatch that ive had a hundred times before.

it feels like I am being successful in gaming girls that i have no real connection with - but by now I have slept with so many of them that even if i was to connect with one of them i doubt that she could retain my interest in the medium term - because the whole female behaviour traits and sexual component has been demystified by the influence i have found here on the site - I dread becoming some workhorse shackled to an old woman - but it seems inevitable and im not exactly sure what to do.

 

[Ridingthelightning]

What are the type of women you're sleeping with and how long does it typically take to get them into bed?

If it isn't very long then why not try a higher caliber of woman? Someone who challenges you and isn't mesmerized by your tricks of the trade.

 

[babystepninspiration]

the following is something I have noticed that may or may not apply to you. I challenge you to consider its implications on your life:

in relationships with girls it is accepted that you are either climbing up the "attraction" ladder or the "friend-zone ladder" as you spend more time with her.

perhaps, there are also two other ladders you can climb up in developing your skills of interacting with women. one is the philosophy taught on this site, that gets you to the lay easily, but potentially has side effects like the ones you described. perhaps there is another one that may be mutually exclusive with being a "don juan", that won't give you these side effects.

i don't want to ram my beliefs down your throat, especially since they are not common beliefs on this forum so i'll leave it there.

 

[unsatisfied]

what is the other ladder?

 

[Proselytiser]

I don't know what he's talking about. There can't be more than two ladders. Just different methods of climbing the attraction ladder, and perhaps methods of jumping from one ladder to the other.