"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SoS, going to first ever club party for me, sponsored by University!!

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This is gone be masquerade club party, sponsored by my university, and I signed up just to push my limit, but now I have no body to go with me, how should I take this? is this suicide? How do I play the venue?

Guys need some idea of what it will be like.. So far as far as my progress is concerned, I'm going out dating girls and also approaching too, but this will be my first club experience, so what would you guys advice I do?

The girl actually wants to give me a ride back home, as transportation system locks down during the night, Should I take it and stay until 3:30 to go back with her, or should I eject early? The event starts at 10:00..
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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kdnash82

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i've gone to clubs before by myself. these were places where my social proof is through the roof though. i would never go to a place alone where i wasn't.

i would suggest that you find a small group to go with. have one of them drive you there. if you decide to drink you don't have to be responsible for everyone else. and if the girl still decides to give you a ride home, you can ditch your friends without them having to find another ride home.

overall, while you're at the club, do not concentrate on the girl or any girl for that matter. concentrate on simply having fun. if you can do this, the girl will be attracted to that alone and in the process you will have her. if all fails, then at least you still had fun. if you concentrate on the girl and it fails, you'll feel bumbed about the whole thing.
 

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Never been alone to a club, i wouldn't be able to enjoy myself i think, if i had mad DJing approaching skills i might have, but...
 

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So, I'm getting

mixed messages here, is it good to go at it alone or is it suicide?

I will be wearing a Hat, and a Mask, with a suite..so it could get interesting to say the least..
 

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why did you wait till 25 for your first club experience? shouldnt u have been obsessing over going to a club ever since turning 18/21 like a normal guy?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well I guess

Real said:
why did you wait till 25 for your first club experience? shouldnt u have been obsessing over going to a club ever since turning 18/21 like a normal guy?

I just didn't have the drive to do lots of things that I'm doing today, it happens, what matters is here and now, and what I can do to maximize my potential, and push my comfort zone...

I am maybe the most inrovert person, going on most extravert quests, I've already joined 6 dance lessons, that I've been attending for 2 months now, I talk to lots of girls now compared to none last year, and I date almost every other day..I am very happy and excited about my life today, and I don't regret past, I'm a better and more confident person because of my history..
 
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