Sorry, typical problem

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I have been good friends with this girl for about 5 years and I started to have feelings for her about 1 year ago and never had the courage to tell her because I thought it might ruin our friendship.

But about 4 months ago I told her about my feelings towards her and how I have liked her for sometime. The problem is that she has been going out with another guy for about 7 months.

The trouble is that she and I began to see each other allot and she started to fall for me also.

She says she loves me but she doesn't want to break up with her boyfriend because she says she is "afraid."

She loves me but she also loves her boyfriend.

What should I do? Try to wait things out, or forget about her?

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Forget about her and game other women that are single. This is covered in the Dj Bible when it talks about this type a situation. She will say she "loves you" but won't leave her boyfriend for you. Which, is proven in your case. Just move on in your life and show higher value of yourself. If, she really did love you why, would she not leave her boyfriend for you? Because, her love for you is only based on a friendship level. So, get your mind right and move on! Hell, if you do that she might see your a better catch and actually will come to you but, don't rely on it.

 

[Ace of Flames]

She'll never break up with him. Did you read that right? Never.

And if for some reason he leaves her, she'll say she's so distraught from the break-up that she just can't be with you.

So yea, you're screwed. Get out now.

But wait! There may be a solution yet! If she really does have any kind of feelings for you, then when you get out of this situation with her and start going out with other girls, she'll get jealous. That just might make her go through with the break-up and come after you. Maybe not. Either way, you should be happy, since you'll have new girls anyway. If she comes after you, its up to you if you want to take her. You might have met a new girl you like even more, that you actually have a chance with.

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

Give her the good old ultimatum.

You or him.
(you'll also find out if she truly has feelings for you this way).

I've actually done this before, sorta

 

[sam3083]

Yeah, i'll be giving a girl an ultimatum like this soon.

I'll let you know how it goes...